Hydrogen Peroxide and Cancer: This is what you MUST know

Cancer is dangerous. Don’t flirt with disaster. Don’t eat it and don’t go near it. Don’t drink it. Don’t put it on your skin. Yes, this is a warning not to put cancer on or inside your body. Cancer is in GMO pesticide DNA seed designs and the treatments used on vegetables and fruit.

Cancer is in sun block lotions full of toxins that hold in your sweat and block out the vitamin D you would normally get from the sun. Cancer is in cosmetics, makeup, soaps, toothpaste and shampoos.

Cancer may be lurking in your refrigerator, your pantry and in your medicine cabinet, but it has an archenemy. Cancer has a rival that destroys it like an M-60 leveling a field of enemy soldiers. It’s called “hydrogen peroxide,” and the “lame-stream,” mainstream media will tell you how “dangerous” it is at 35%, but they won’t tell you that you can drip a couple drops in a glass of water each day and end cancer. Yes, it’s true.

Cancer thrives in an acid-heavy system, where the blood and the organs are flooded with processed salt, sugar, animal fat and artificial food. The heart and brain struggle to filter out the toxins found in most conventional forms of food, like antibiotics, hormones, pesticides, insecticides, herbicides, bleach, ammonia, fluoride, heavy metals and much more.

This is why the doctors and oncologists tell chemo patients not to eat alkalizing foods like kale, because it will “interfere with the chemotherapy.” God forbid you should try to alkalize all that acid that’s killing your GOOD cells.

Most cancer God forbid you should try to alkalize all that acid that’s killing your GOOD cells. Most cancer patients die as a result of the chemotherapy and radiation damage to their non-cancerous cells. In other words, your good cells that are trying to help your body beat cancer are deprived of oxygen also, leading to new cancers and often death within 5 years. “The most overlooked solution to all manner of illness and disease is perhaps the simplest.

All pathogens, viruses, and parasites are anaerobic. They thrive in the absence of oxygen, but cannot survive with an abundance of oxygen. Even cancer cells cannot exist in oxygen. They depend on fermenting glucose to survive and multiply.”

What should you do, whether you have cancer or not? Alkalize your body, that’s what. Now keep in mind, hydrogen peroxide does not rebuild the immune system or repair the cells damaged by toxic chemo; however, there’s no better time to welcome that “change of season” for the regeneration of new cells, skin, hair and organ cells than right now. This is preprogrammed in your DNA. Men and women have the same schedule:

120 Days – NEW Red Blood Cells
90 Days – NEW Skeleton
60 Days – NEW Brain Cells, Tissue
49 Days – NEW Bladder
45 Days – NEW Liver, NEW DNA Cell Material
30 Days – NEW Hair, NEW Skin
5 Days – NEW Stomach Lining
(http://www.agedefyingbody.com)

Getting enough hydrogen peroxide inside the cancer cells is key

It has been clinically demonstrated that the spread or metastatis of cancer is “inversely proportional to the amount of oxygen around the cancer cells.” That means that the more oxygen, the slower the cancer spreads. Conversely, the less oxygen, the faster the cancer spreads. If cancer cells get enough oxygen, they will die! Hydrogen peroxide kills cancer cells, because cancer cells do not have the mechanism to break down the hydrogen peroxide and stop it from doing its work.
The key to curing cancer with hydrogen peroxide is getting ENOUGH hydrogen peroxide INSIDE the cancer cells. There is a scientific description of this: Proteolytic enzymes, also called pancreatic enzymes, literally cut apart the thick protein coating that covers cancer cells, so the immune system can recognize the cells as cancerous. Well, you don’t have to be a scientist to understand that! By cutting apart the protein coating, the hydrogen peroxide then gets inside the cancer cells. You won’t hear about that on any CNN “cancer special” or on “Dr. Oz.”

Science has known this for 50 years

Nobel prize winner Dr. Otto Warburg demonstrated OVER 50 YEARS AGO the basic difference between normal cells and cancer cells. Both derive energy from glucose, but the normal cell requires oxygen to combine with the glucose, while cancer cells break down glucose without oxygen, yielding only about 1/15 of the energy per glucose molecule that a normal cell produces. This is why cancer cells have such a huge appetite for sugar and why people who are obese get cancer more often. It’s called the “biochemical cascade.” (http://www.naturalnews.com)
Hydrogen peroxide and several other oxygen therapies are proven to be safe and effective. Pay attention to what you buy though, because 35% food grade hydrogen peroxide is the only grade recommended for internal use. Beware of the 3% “Pharmaceutical Grade.” This is the grade sold at your local drugstore or supermarket. This product is not recommended for internal use, because it contains an assortment of stabilizers which shouldn’t be ingested. Home use advice: Some individuals add a cup of 35% food grade hydrogen peroxide to a bathtub of warm water and soak for 20 to 30 minutes. The hydrogen peroxide is absorbed through the skin, which is your largest organ. Others drink a glass of water with several drops of food or reagent grade hydrogen peroxide. Also look into digestive enzymes. Researchers have noted for years a correspondence between low levels of enzymes and cancer; in fact, enzyme therapy has been used with good results against cancers in Europe and by some doctors in the United States.
Sources for this article include:
http://www.new-cancer-treatments.org
http://www.burzynskiclinic.com
http://www.cancertutor.com
http://www.agedefyingbody.com
http://www.naturalnews.com
http://www.new-cancer-treatments.org
http://gerson.org

original source: http://www.naturalnews.com/042577_cancer_treatment_hydrogen_peroxide_alternative_medicine.html#ixzz3qUcZu4Pe

7 Tips For Starting A Healthy Eating Plan With Mindful Dieting

Weight loss is a common Law of Attraction goal. Have you struggled to stay slim your whole life, and now you finally see a way of achieving this by using manifestation techniques? 

This is certainly possible. However, it requires looking past the mere desire for physical changes and focusing in on the way the mind impacts the body. Creating a healthy eating plan does not just have to be a temporary change for weight loss, but instead a brand new lifestyle choice.

For example, the food cravings that you experience are often triggered by emotional cues. Alternatively, caused by learned connections between certain tastes and activities. In other words, you effectively have to relearn the habit of eating only when you’re genuinely hungry. You’re most likely to leave the habit of overeating behind if you cultivate a mindful approach to healthy eating and dieting.
Here are seven tips to help you get started with healthy eating.

Understand The Difference Between Cravings And Hunger

As it stands, you might get cravings confused with real hunger on a regular basis. So, how do you reliably tell the difference?
The main thing to remember is that if you’re genuinely hungry then you’ll want to eat pretty much any kind of food. We all have a physiological need for nourishment, so it should be relatively easy to satisfy. Plus, you’ll stop eating when that need is met.

On the other hand, cravings are about feeling hungry for a specific food and have no physiologically determined upper limit that will necessarily lead you to stop eating.

Drink Before Eating Snacks

When you’re tempted to eat something between meals, reach for liquid before food. Ideally, try drinking a couple of glasses of water and then see if you still want to eat about 15 minutes later. Our bodies often get confused about whether we’re hungry or thirsty, so you may find that the glasses of water actually satiate you.

Now, if you still feel the need to eat after the 15 minutes have passed, reach for healthy snacks instead of junk. Good examples include vegetables, fruit, or plain yogurt. As well as being better for you, these types of healthy foods help you to feel satisfied for longer (reducing your urge to snack again).

Craving-Proof Your Home

If you don’t have easy access to the foods you crave, it stands to reason that you’ll be less likely to overeat. However, you’ll also train your mind to think less often about these foods. You’ll slowly start to encourage your brain to associate the idea of eating with healthier sources of nutrition.
Once you have a more mindful attitude to dieting, you can reintroduce a wider variety of (small) snacks at a later date.

Restrict Food Choices

When you’re presented with a massive buffet of different foods, it’s very easy to eat far too much. Research on weight gain proves this association. The more variety provided, the more likely the person is to gain body fat.
You can combat this issue by cutting back on the food choices you have at your biggest meal (which is most likely dinner).

Load Up With Vegetables And Other Healthy Food Options

It makes sense that you probably associate the idea of dieting with removing food choices, but in truth, it can also be about adding healthier foods.

In particular, it’s an excellent idea to make vegetables a staple part of your main meals (and to use them to create snacks as well). These healthy foods are high in fiber, dense in vitamins and minerals, and help you feel full and satisfied for longer than sugary treats.

Have More Meals

On the theme of additions, it’s also worth thinking about changing your approach to meal structure if you want to promote healthy eating.
While it’s traditional to eat three large meals a day, some people find that they lose weight if they change to, say, five smaller meals per day. The rationale here is that you’ll feel full more of the time (thereby reducing the urge to snack). You’ll also boost your metabolism, helping your body burn more calories at a faster rate.

Use Mindfulness Techniques

Finally, you’ll likely already be practicing some mindfulness technique as part of your Law of Attraction work. The good news is that this skillset is readily applicable to your more specific goal of weight loss as well. For example, you might try doing a straightforward mindfulness meditation for 5-10 minutes (perhaps a body scanning exercise or one that simply focuses on your breathing) before you go to the table to have your meal.

Alternatively, when you have an urgent need to counteract a craving, you could try visualizing yourself as full and satiated for 10 minutes and then ask yourself if you’re really hungry.

In addition, be sure to keep up with your regular creative visualizations about weight loss. These could better connect you with the reasons why you are on this journey to begin with. Find out how to start using visualization techniques and exercises mentioned throughout this article with our free tool kit, click here now.

Simple wisdom for people living busy lives.

A Japanese doctor who studied longevity — and lived to 105 — reveals the key to living a long life

On July 18, 2017 Japan lost a national treasure. He was the 105-year-old Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara.
Dr. Hinohara made a lion’s contribution to healthcare in Japan, both as a practicing medical doctor and as a physician. He headed five foundations in addition to being the president of St Luke’s International Hospital in Tokyo. He was responsible for introducing Japan’s system of comprehensive annual medical check-ups, which have been credited with greatly contributing to the country’s longevity, reports the BBC.
Those are laudable achievements, but it is his longevity and the fact that he saw patients until a few months before his death that defies everything we have come to expect of old age.
You may be wondering: how did he manage to live so long and live those years in a state of good health?
Did he follow a sensible diet? No.
Did he maintain a healthy work/life balance? No.
How about getting ample sleep? No.
Dr Hinohara, who worked 18 hours a day, 7 days a week, shared some of his thoughts with Judith Kawaguchi in the Japan Times.
Here are the key points:

• Energy comes from feeling good, not from eating well or sleeping a lot.
• It’s best not to tire the body with too many rules such as lunchtime and bedtime. We all remember how as children, when we were having fun, we often forgot to eat or sleep. Kawaguchi believes we can keep that attitude as adults, too.
• If you want to live long, don’t be overweight. “For breakfast I drink coffee, a glass of milk and some orange juice with a tablespoon of olive oil in it. Lunch is milk and a few cookies, or nothing when I am too busy to eat. Dinner is veggies, a bit of fish and rice, and, twice a week, 100 grams of lean meat.”
• There is no need to ever retire, but if one must, it should be a lot later than 65. He explained that the current retirement age was set at 65 half a century ago, when the average life-expectancy in Japan was 68 years. Today, people live longer, so they can work longer.

There is more, and it may surprise you as it did me. Kawaguchi recommends against taking a doctor’s advice at face value, animal therapies and the need for liberal and visual arts in healing.
“When a doctor recommends you take a test or have some surgery, ask whether the doctor would suggest that his or her spouse or children go through such a procedure. Contrary to popular belief, doctors can’t cure everyone. So why cause unnecessary pain with surgery?
“Music and animal therapy can help more than most doctors imagine.
“Pain is mysterious, and having fun is the best way to forget it. Hospitals must cater to the basic need of patients: We all want to have fun. At St. Luke’s we have music and animal therapies, and art classes.
“Science alone can’t cure or help people. Science lumps us all together, but illness is individual. Each person is unique, and diseases are connected to their hearts. To know the illness and help people, we need liberal and visual arts, not just medical ones.”
Now, there is a lot of food for thought.

Asian men rarely get Prostate Cancer -Here is Why

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Prostate cancer is a challenge for men, just as breast cancer is for women.

A search for a cure for these maladies has been going on for years. Interestingly, research has pointed out that the rates of prostate cancer are lower among Asian men than other races. Why do they vary? And is there a way for men, regardless of race, to nip this disease in the bud?

Research reveals lower rates of Prostate Cancer in Asia

Experts from various organizations share that prostate cancer rates vary between countries.
The International Agency for Research on Cancer points out that the lowest rates of this illness are in Africa and Asia. The highest are in developed countries.
The National Cancer Institute and the US National Institute of Health share dramatic statistics. According to them, The rates for prostate cancer are higher for Western men than Asian men.
USA Today shares that African-Americans have the highest rates of prostate cancer in the world. But prostate cancer is not a typical malady in Africa. Diet is a possible explanation for the difference in rates since these men share the same ethnicity.
Furthermore, eMedicine.com points out that the difference in prostate cancer rates between African-Americans and Asians in Asia is 200-fold. Again, the difference in ethnicity and diet could explain the extreme variation in statistics.

Reasons why Asian Men Rarely Get Prostate Cancer

It seems like prostate cancer rates are the lowest among Asian men. What is their secret for keeping prostate cancer at bay?

1. Diet

First of all, the Asian diet is high in fiber and low in fat. For example, the Japanese take in lots of low-fat fish.

You may believe that a high-fat, meat-based diet of hamburgers, sausages, and steaks triggers this disease. While this is true, a lot depends on the temperature and preparation of the meat.
According to one study, the mutagens (agents which cause genetic change) in smoked meat, such as heterocyclic amines, and carcinogens (cancer-causing substances) prompt prostate cancer.

2. Using squat toilets

Toilet habits may also affect prostate cancer rates. In general, Asians tend to use squatting toilets more than those in the West.
Westernized sitting toilets have become a convention, for many reasons. They are more hygienic and presentable than squatting toilets.
However, sitting toilets don’t prevent the disease like squatting ones. Sitting toilets involve using the diaphragm to push downward to eliminate, which is an effort. The name for it is the Valsalva Maneuver.
Furthermore, the pelvis and consequently, the pelvic floor has no support when a person’s in a sitting posture. That stretches and destroys the pudendal nerve, which sends signals from the prostate to the brain. Cancer sets in when it cannot function properly.

3. Genetics

Genetics could also explain why Asians are less prone to this disease than other races. One study unveiled that inherited genes might explain the disease. Asian migrants to Western nations developed it as well. Therefore, the environment could contribute to the illness.

4. Geography

Geography also plays a part in prostate cancer development. It influences a person’s lifestyle and diet.
According to a study, Asian migrants to Western nations had higher rates of prostate cancer than their counterparts in their homelands. Diet and lifestyle might explain the higher rates. The availability of screening for the disease in the places where they came from might explain it as well.

Other factors that may affect prostate cancer rates

Of course, a person’s ethnicity and environment aren’t the only factors that increase prostate cancer risk. Here are some other possible causes.

1. Family history

A person’s family history, first of all, might decide whether he’s likely to develop the disease. One study shows that it is a factor which African-American men use to decide if they should get screened.

2. Exercise

Also, a person will cope better with this illness if he exercises. Research has proven that it helps him manage some of its side effects.

3. Age

Finally, the risk of prostate cancer increases as a person ages. The site Cancer.net shares that men over the age of 50 are more likely than younger ones to develop the illness.

How to Treat Prostate Cancer Naturally

There is good news for men who don’t like medication. There are natural ways to stop prostate cancer. Any man can use them, regardless of his race.

1. Ginger

First of all is ginger, an amazing antimicrobial herb. It reins in cancerous cells when taken regularly. You can drink it as a raw juice or with honey.

2. Tomatoes

Tomatoes may also prevent cancer. They have the antioxidant Lycopene, which stops it in its tracks. Of course, you can use them in many dishes.

3. Pomegranate

Furthermore, there is pomegranate. Researchers have found that pomegranate extracts can stop cancerous cells from growing.

4. Soy

Another essential ingredient that curbs the spread of cancerous cells is soy. Soyfoods contain phytoestrogens (naturally occurring estrogens) which prevent the release of testosterone. This male hormone is what’s responsible for cancerous cells growing in the prostate.
The Cancer Council in Australia states that scientists found that people in Asia eat more soy. They went on a quest to find out if there were links between eating soy and prostate cancer. Men in Asian countries, who generally ate more soy, had lower rates of the disease. This study has the same findings.

5. Green Tea

Green tea is another ingredient that can help in checking this cancer. It has polyphenols that stop cancerous cells from growing. Note that prostate cancer rates in Japan, where green tea is a staple, is 67% less than in America.

6. Omega 3 Fatty Acids

Finally, foods like fatty fish, which are high in Omega 3 Fatty Acids, can rein in prostate cancer. Examples of such fish are salmon and tuna.
A man can beat prostate cancer, no matter his race. It takes awareness and some effort. Small lifestyle changes can keep it at bay.

Six Signs You Are Ready To Take Your Life To The Next Level

If you feel like you’re being kept back from the life of your dreams, the good news is that you’re the only person holding yourself back! Sure, it takes some bravery and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone, but isn’t it exciting to think about discovering what you’re truly capable of?
Look out for the follows six signs that it’s time for you to take your life to the next level, and consider our tips for beginning your transformation.

1. Your Surroundings Don’t Inspire You

To be joyful and motivated, we need to engage in continuous learning. Do your current surroundings offer this, or do you feel stagnant and bored? If the latter is true, you’re ready to grab hold of some new wisdom and broaden your horizons.
In addition, remember that deliberately engaging in some personal exploration is also a way of changing your surroundings. Every time you hold yourself back with thoughts like “I can’t do X” or “I’ll never get Y”, make a point of challenging yourself and asking why you think these things. Are your fears and negative assumptions the only things standing between you and the things you really want?

2. You Know You Deserve More

Do you feel a disconnect between what your life is like now and what you feel you’re capable of offering the world? You might sense this disconnected in your job, your love life, or even just in your daily routines. Perhaps you just have a nagging feeling that you have knowledge, skills are untapped or hidden. This a sign that you need to challenge yourself a whole lot more if you’re going to reach your full potential.
One productive way of figuring out how to take your life to the next level is to ask yourself what you’d do if you had unlimited money and time. When you have your answer, ask yourself why you haven’t yet been working to achieve this particular thing, and outline at least one concrete step you can take towards your dream.

3. You Want To Grow Through Experience

Traveling, exploring and exposing your mind to new cultures and ideas provide amazing opportunities for growth. If that sounds really appealing to you and yet you’ve hardly even been outside your own state, you’re sure to undergo significant personal development if you choose to take greater steps into the unknown.
You can think of your life as analogous to a financial investment—the more you put into your own growth, the bigger the return you’ll get.
So, whenever you feel like your daily life just isn’t feeding your soul in the way you need, look for something that does—and start spending as much time on that as you can!

4. You Struggle To Relate To Anxious People

Stepping out of your comfort zone is a necessary component of challenging yourself, and a certain amount of anxiety is a simple consequence. So, if you just can’t understand the idea of getting anxious about something or struggle to remember the last time you felt anxious in the slightest, you’re ready to challenge yourself a whole lot more in order to take your life to the next level.
Remember that it’s completely normal to fear a flutter of fear at the thought of failing when you try something new. In contrast, what’s not normal (and what will really inhibit your growth) is allowing that fear of failure to stop you from engaging with new challenges.

5. You Enjoy Having An Easy Life

There’s a certain peace that can come with an easy life, but if this is the norm for you then you’ve likely fallen into an unproductive life that will hold you back from becoming your more fulfilled self.
Having a full and dynamic existence means experiencing both joyful and painful moments—so while living an easy life does protect you from some suffering, it also stops you from reaching the real heights that this world has to offer.
Plus, no one can have an easy life all of the time, so you’re shooting yourself in the foot if you’re not prepared for the challenges ahead. Devote some energy to getting physically and mentally fitter, and know that you have the strength to face anything that hits you.

6. You Could Do Your Job In Your Sleep

Finally, if you basically do your job on automatic pilot, it’s obvious that your career isn’t challenging you in a way that will help you take your life to the next level. As mentioned above, it’s daunting to make major changes like shifting to a different career—but small changes can make a big difference here.
You could sign up for a night class that prepares you for your new venture, commit to reading several essential books this month, or attend a networking event. These are all ways of starting to take your career—and thereby your life—to the next level.

A Japanese doctor who studied longevity — and lived to 105 — reveals the key to living a long life

Simple wisdom for people living busy lives.

A Japanese doctor who studied longevity — and lived to 105 — reveals the key to living a long life  On July 18, 2017 Japan lost a national treasure. He was the 105-year-old Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara.  

 

Dr. Hinohara made a lion’s contribution to healthcare in Japan, both as a practicing medical doctor and as a physician. He headed five foundations in addition to being the president of St Luke’s International Hospital in Tokyo. He was responsible for introducing Japan’s system of comprehensive annual medical check-ups, which have been credited with greatly contributing to the country’s longevity, reports the BBC. 

Those are laudable achievements, but it is his longevity and the fact that he saw patients until a few months before his death that defies everything we have come to expect of old age.You may be wondering: how did he manage to live so long and live those years in a state of good health?D id he follow a sensible diet? No.

 Did he maintain a healthy work/life balance? No.

 How about getting ample sleep? No.Dr Hinohara, who worked 18 hours a day, 7 days a week, shared some of his thoughts with Judith Kawaguchi in the Japan Times.

 Here are the key points:

•  Energy comes from feeling good, not from eating well or sleeping a lot

• It’s best not to tire the body with too many rules such as lunchtime and bedtime. We all remember how as children, when we were having fun, we often forgot to eat or sleep. Kawaguchi believes we can keep that attitude as adults, too.

• If you want to live long, don’t be overweight. “For breakfast I drink coffee, a glass of milk and some orange juice with a tablespoon of olive oil in it. Lunch is milk and a few cookies, or nothing when I am too busy to eat. Dinner is veggies, a bit of fish and rice, and, twice a week, 100 grams of lean meat.”

 There is more, and it may surprise you as it did me.

• There is no need to ever retire, but if one must, it should be a lot later than 65. He explained that the current retirement age was set at 65 half a century ago, when the average life-expectancy in Japan was 68 years. Today, people live longer, so they can work longer.

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Kawaguchi recommends against taking a doctor’s advice at face value, animal therapies and the need for liberal and visual arts in healing.
“When a doctor recommends you take a test or have some surgery, ask whether the doctor would suggest that his or her spouse or children go through such a procedure. Contrary to popular belief, doctors can’t cure everyone. So why cause unnecessary pain with surgery?
 
         “Music and animal therapy can help more than most doctors imagine.
 



  n is mysterious, and having fun is the best way to forget it. Hospitals must cater to the basic need of patients: We all want to have fun. At St. Luke’s we have music and animal therapies, and art classes.

“Science alone can’t cure or help people. Science lumps us all together, but illness is individual. Each person is unique, and diseases are connected to their hearts. To know the illness and help people, we need liberal and visual arts, not just medical ones.”
Now, there is a lot of food for thought.

25 Common Behaviors Of Someone Who Has Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse

While we grow up, the behavior that we receive from our families is extremely related to our coping skills as adults. Victims of emotional abuse usually behave in a certain way that separates them from the rest. If you or somebody you know was a victim of abuse, then you might want to read more about these. Understanding where another person is coming from, or getting to know yourself better, can make all the difference.

1. Asking Questions Even When The Answer Is Obvious

If you have ever been a victim of abuse, you may doubt yourself every single time, even when you know you are right. Due to this, you mind find yourself asking a million questions, ene when the answers are obvious.

2. Apologize All The Time

Children of abuse might feel as though they weren't ever able to do anything right. As a result, they always apologize, even in their adult life, and even when they didn't do anything wrong.

3. Second Guessing Everything

When you have lived in a chaotic world of emotional abuse, you can never truly trust in anything. Instead, you might always be afraid of something bad happening or someone betraying you.

4. You Seem Tough But Are Very Sensitive

During a difficult childhood, you learn how to be tough, because you have to be. Nevertheless, you also experience a number of strong emotions at a young age, which cause you to be especially sensitive in your adult life.

5. It's Really Hard To Make A Decision

It's more difficult to make decisions if during your childhood you were told that you weren't good enough.

6. You Are Self-Disciplined

To combat a parent or caregiver that was constantly searching for your mistakes, you might become a perfectionist. You are timely, clean, and well-organized. Lots of victims of abuse tend to over-do because they want to people please.

7. You Are Sensitive To Loud Noises

If you have grown up in fear, you might be used to being yelled at, so that loud noises remind you of abuse.

8. You Are Introverted

So many victims of abuse are afraid of socializing with people, and might sometimes try to distance themselves as much as they can.

9. You Have A Defensive Nature

You might perceive people as negative or offensive because of your past abuse.

10. You Have Attachment Issues

That means fearing that others will leave you, or abandon you.

11. You Have Issues With Eye Contact

When talking, you might become anxious to the extent that you can't even make eye contact with the other person.

12. You Run Away From Conflict

You hate facing conflict, because it gives you immense anxiety. So, it feels easier for you to just leave the situation completely.

13. You Always Beat Yourself Up

After being abused, you might be used to some kind of repercussion for everything you've done wrong. In turn, you might be constantly bashing yourself.

14. You Find It Hard To Get Close To Other People

If you have been abused, you might not especially like people or be scared of them. Because of this, getting close to others isn't something simple for you.

15. You Are Quiet

You might not feel like you have a loud voice after you have been forced to feel so small and insignificant your whole life.

16. You Can't Take A Compliment

When someone says how wonderful you are, you might doubt their words, because you can't see any good in yourself.

17. You Have Very Low Self-Esteem

No matter what you do, you always doubt that you are capable of doing it. You don't believe in yourself as much as you should.

18. You Have Addiction Issues

According to science and psychology, victims of emotional abuse often face addiction issues. These can include alcohol, stealing, hard drugs, gambling, eating excessively, etc.

19. You Are Constantly Nervous

Everything worries you and makes you anxious. Even the smallest sign of trouble, you will feel overwhelmed.

20. You Often Feel Anger

Your entire life you sat back and watched a person treat you terribly, with anger and fury. In turn, you may now have outbursts of anger.

21. You Have Self-Harming Behaviors

Some abused children tend to abuse themselves later in life as they feel like they deserve it

22. You Have Constant Mood Swings

Living with a toxic person who abuses you can cause you to have many different emotions at the same time.

23. You Live In Auto-Pilot

You might notice that you sometimes forget entire conversations or events because you simply spaced out.

24. You Have Commitment Issues

Committing to people is more difficult when you have been abused. You may find it hard to trust others enough to settle with them.

25. You Are Humble

After all, when there is something good in your life, you know how to appreciate it. You are just stronger every day and grateful that the worst days are over.

Here are 7 things you don’t know you’re doing because you’re Highly Intelligent

Intelligence has always been a contested category because science has always tried to quantify it with stringent rules and regulations. Children who score well on their tests are considered to be more intelligent than their peers who score badly. People who “conform” to the rules and follow all the instructions are seen to be much wiser than those who follow their own creativity.

In this rigid construction of a definition of intelligence, where do you stand? Do you think you are intelligent? We present to you some qualities that signify that you too are intelligent amongst the A+ crowd. Forget what society has taught you about what is seen as brilliant. Try to invent and create your ideas in new ways which can be explosively intelligent.

Here are the seven qualities which are proven by science to be associated with intelligent people:

1. Being a night owl

According to a research, people who stay up till late are more intelligent than those who sleep early. If you are thinking that staying up till late will make you smarter, let me break your bubble by saying that this is not how it works. It only signifies that there is a correlation between higher intelligence and being a night owl.

Also, night owls are mentally more alert during the longer part of the day as compared to early birds.

2. Being an introvert

A lot has been said on how introverts are more intelligent than their extrovert counterparts. A study done by The Gifted Development Centre shows that sixty percent of gifted children are behaviorally introverts. Often people with high IQ’s are also introverts.

German Psychologist Hans Eysenck performed experiments on introverts and found that they have naturally high cortical arousal i. e. their ability to process information per second is higher than an average extrovert.
Must-Read: Highly Attractive And Intelligent People Possess These 6 Habits

3. You are funny!

If you can make others laugh, your IQ level is definitely much higher than most of the people. Since funny people are more witty and creative, their conversations are never dull which also contributes to their higher levels of intelligence. People with a sense of humor have also scored better on verbal intelligence exams.

4. You accept your limited knowledge

Smart people have no qualms in admitting that they don’t know something. They don’t pretend to know everything. They are quite comfortable in their limited knowledge and are open to learning new things thereby proving themselves to be more intelligent.

In fact people who are less intelligent like to overestimate their cognitive abilities. A study done by Justin Kruger and David Dunning proves that.

5. You are highly curious about things

People who depict signs of curiosity are actually more intelligent than others. Even Einstein himself said, “I have no special talents, I’m only passionately curious”.

6. You are an open-minded person

This ability allows you to comprehend the different viewpoints that you encounter in your life. You are willing to accept the existence of multiple opinions and are open to try new ideas.

According to researchers, people who are willing to see both sides of an argument tend to do better on intelligence tests. But this does not mean that an intelligent person will accept any idea put in front of them.

7. You show sensitivity to others

Intelligence does not mean that you get to be an ass. A truly intelligent person shows empathy and compassion to others. He/she is sensitive to other people’s experiences and will deal with them in a gentle manner. Emotional intelligence is also a significant form of intelligence which, sadly, not many people can attain.

Emotionally intelligent people like having conversations with new people, trying to understand their lives.

It is possible to increase your serotonin levels naturally – here is how!

It is possible to increase your serotonin levels naturally – here is how!

Serotonin is an important brain chemical that helps to improve mood and stops feelings of depression and anxiety.
This is a molecule of willpower and its deficiency can lead to the inability to create and take actions for which a person feels depressed, easily upset or fail to control their impulses.

Some of the symptoms of lack of serotonin include depression, frequent need for naps, low self-esteem, obsession with trivia, irritability, shyness and panic attacks. There is also the likelihood that such persons have sleep problems because they do not have sufficient amounts of serotonin, which will be converted into melatonin, a substance that drives and enables a peaceful and restful sleep.

These symptoms can range from mild to very severe and they are usually treated with pharmaceutical drugs.

But there are natural ways to help yourself, and even prevent the need for treatment.

1. Spend some more time in the sunlight

Sunlight is the first factor and one of the most important helpers in maintaining serotonin levels in the body. It has three advantages over other forms of light. Sunlight has ultraviolet (UV) light and it is much lighter than the artificial light. Too much UV light can cause skin cancer, so many people avoid sunlight, but a certain amount of sunshine is necessary for general health.

UV light is important because it produces vitamin D, which, among other things, stimulates the production of serotonin.

2. Massage heals

Several studies have shown that massage can be very useful in raising the level of serotonin. One of them studied the effect of massage on the depressed pregnant women as a serious condition because the mother’s depression can affect baby’s activity of various neurotransmitters, including serotonin. Pregnant women are massaged twice a week over a period of four months. Their serotonin levels increased by 30%.

3. Move your body

Studies have shown that exercise increases the production of serotonin and its release. Especially useful are the aerobic exercises, such as running and cycling. Yoga is one of the activities which is greatly beneficial. It is interesting to note that if you exercise too much or you are forced to do the exercises, the neurochemical effect will not be the same. The reason probably lies in our ancient instincts.

There is a difference in how you run because you chase something or how you run when something is chasing you. When it comes to exercise, people often avoid it because they do not feel the will. This is caused by administration of low activity of serotonin.

4. Food can make us happy

The food is certainly one of the factors, but there are many myths associated with diet and serotonin. For example, it is believed that all foods rich in tryptophan automatically raise the level of serotonin, but this is wrong.
A large amount of turkey meat will not automatically increase the serotonin level. Banana will do it because it contains serotonin, which cannot cross the brain-blood barrier.

Complex carbohydrates are those that are absorbed into the body more slowly than simple, and they include legumes (such as peas and lentils), wholegrain bread and pasta, brown rice and starchy vegetables. These carbohydrates will be helpful. Simple carbohydrates such as white bread and rice, “normal” pasta, cakes, candies and other products of refined sugar are not your friends. Dark chocolate raises serotonin levels and it’s a great choice for a dessert.

5. Avoid caffeine

Caffeine reduces serotonin levels which probably explains why it suppresses hunger. Energy drinks contain large amounts of sugar that the body quickly processes but later leaves us feeling empty and tired.

6. Omega 3 fatty acids

Sufficient dose of omega-3 fatty acids will help because they affect the efficiency of serotonin in the brain. People with low levels of serotonin usually have low DHA, which is the acid that is part of the basic structure of the brain. It must be supplemented with food that is rich in omega-3 acids, such as fish, especially salmon, fish oils, nuts, seeds and oils obtained from them, particularly flaxseed.

7. Positive thinking

Finally, do not forget positive thoughts and memories of happy events. For people who have low levels of serotonin, this step may be the most challenging, but also participates in increasing serotonin and in the area of ​​the brain behind the prefrontal cortex, which controls attention. Remembering the events that were happy also has a double effect: serotonin levels directly increase and prevent reflection of negative events. A great help can be the conversations with old friends, photos or reading a diary.

If you focus on it and change your lifestyle, serotonin levels will definitely increase. And, in any case, sunlight, healthy food, massages and other mention details will be useful for your general well-being.
References:

• http://bodyecology.com/
• https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/
• https://www.psychologytoday.com/
• http://www.naturallivingideas.com/

Sex on the Brain: The Evolutionary Link between Intelligence and Sex Drive

February 9, 2016 By Justin Gammill

A couple of years ago I read a research study that I’ve honestly thought about on several occasions ever since. Not all research articles stick with me the way this one did, but there was something about this report that struck such a chord with me, that I kept it bouncing around in me head. I think the reasoning is self-explanatory: back in 2013 an online adult toy retailer, Lovehoney, correlated their sales with IQ by figuring out that students at the most prestigious universities in the UK spent the most money on sex toys.

The basic analysis was that people with higher IQ’s had higher sex drives.

Now, at first glance, this might sound like an excuse for someone who considers themselves to be intelligent to be horny. I think it goes much deeper than that. Although I do consider myself to be of slightly above average intelligence and might be slightly hornier than I should be, I think this study has implications deeper than their surface results. So, let’s dive into the cauldron that is sex drive and IQ:

IQ and Sex Drive

 

Okay, so LoveHoney, an online sex toy retailer, did a study of their sales based on where their customers went to school. Assuming that you have to be smart to get into some of the most elite colleges in the world, Lovehoney established that there was a “heightened interest in sex amongst students in the Russell Group of elite universities”, which includes Cambridge, Oxford, and Manchester universities.

When the results were published, people from these universities chimed in with their opinions. For instance, Alice Little, who studied at Cambridge pointed out: “It seems Oxbridge students know that sex and sex toys are the smartest way to relieve stress. Cambridge definitely has a work hard, play hard culture so it comes as no surprise Cambridge students spend the most to relieve the pressure of studying at a top university.

High-achievers aim for excellence in all areas of their life, so it makes sense that achieving sexual happiness is one of their goals.”

IQ and Sexual Frequency

What the results from Lovehoney didn’t show was that people with higher IQ’s have sex less often. With an actual partner, at least. The theory there is that although people with higher IQ’s may have higher sex drives, they have fewer sexual partners and wait longer to have sex. In an article posted in 2007 on Gene Expression.com, 80% of American males and 75% of American women have had sex by the age of 19.

Compared to 56% of Princeton students, 59% of Harvard students, and 51% of MIT students of the same age.

In fact, only 65% of MIT graduates report that they have ever had sex, period. Sociologist Rosemary Hopcroft says, “Intelligence is negatively associated with sex frequency. It’s a bit dismaying.” But why?

The Evolutionary Issue

Why should people be worried about the fact that being smart is correlated with a higher sex drive, but not with having more sex? In my opinion, as well as the opinion of a few experts, having a high sex drive is an evolutionary trait that is tied to high intelligence for a simple reason: smarter people need to breed more. It’s good for the species.

The problem is that smarter people are more concerned with achievements than they are with getting laid. Therefore, they are being outbred, thus weakening the species.

A psychologist explains the best way to rewire your brain to let go of negative thoughts You already know that positive thinking leads to a more fulfilling life.

A psychologist explains the best way to rewire your brain to let go of negative thoughts

You already know that positive thinking leads to a more fulfilling life.  

But how do you actually think positive when your mind is consistently stuck on the negative?And how can you do it naturally…without using medication or alcohol?Well…that’s exactly what Alison Ledgerwood talks about in this TEDx talk today.As a professional people watcher (social psychologist) Alison Ledgerwood always wondered why the human mind swayed to the negative.

 

 

You already know that positive thinking leads to a more fulfilling life.
That much is clear.
But how do you actually think positive when your mind is consistently stuck on the negative?
And how can you do it naturally…without using medication or alcohol?

Well…that’s exactly what Alison Ledgerwood talks about in this TEDx talk today.
As a professional people watcher (social psychologist) Alison Ledgerwood always wondered why the human mind swayed to the negative.

She even noticed it herself when she was publishing papers. When her paper got rejected, it still weighed on her mind, even after a different paper was accepted.

What’s going on here? Why does the failure seem to stick in our mind so much longer than a success?
Watch the brilliant talk below to find out why as well as the best strategy to deal with it:

For those of you who don’t have time to watch the talk, here is it in text:
We all know intuitively that there are different ways of thinking about things. The same glass, the saying goes, can be seen half full or half empty.

Much research has shown that depending on how you describe the glass to people, it changes how you feel about it.
But have you wondered what happens when you try to switch from thinking about it one way to thinking about it another way? Can we shift back and forth? Or do we get stuck on a particular label?
To investigate this question, Alison Ledgerwood conducted a few simple experiments.

One of the experiments involved telling participants about a new surgical procedure.
The first group of participants were told about the surgical procedure in terms of gains (70% success rate), while the other group were told in terms of losses (30% failure rate).
Unsurprisingly, the gains group liked the procedure a lot more.

However, after this the first group were then told that there is a 30% failure rate, and they immediately didn’t like it.

But when the second group were told that there is a 70% success rate, they still didn’t like the procedure. They were stuck in the initial lost frame.
According to Alison Ledgerwood , these studies show that our view of the world has a fundamental tendency to tilt towards the negative.

It’s pretty easy to go from good to bad but far harder to shift from bad to good.
We literally have to work harder to see the upside of things. It takes effort but you can train your mind to do this better.

There is research out of U.C Davis showing that just writing for a few minutes each day about things that you’re grateful for can dramatically boost your happiness and wellbeing.
We can also rehearse good news and share it with others. It’s no secret that a lot of us complain. It’s like we’re addicted to it, but when we’re talking to others we tend to forget about sharing the good things.
But that’s exactly what our mind needs to practice. It’s about intentionally reshaping the stories in our mind to be more positive.

In other words, start a gratitude journal and talk about your joys!

We also need to think about this from other people’s perspective. We need to be aware that the bad tends to stick. One mean comment can stick with somebody all day or all week. Somebody snaps at you and you snap back and you snap at the next guy too.

But what if the next time somebody snapped at you, you forgave them? What if the next time you had a really grumpy waitress, you left her an extra large tip? Who knows the ripple effect you can create with one small act of kindness
We can retrain our minds to be more positive, more forgiving, and more thankful for the beautiful opportunity that life is.

  She even noticed it herself when she was publishing papers. When her paper got rejected, it still weighed on her mind, even after a different paper was accepted. 

What’s going on here? Why does the failure seem to stick in our mind so much longer than a success?
Watch the brilliant talk below to find out why as well as the best strategy to deal with it:

For those of you who don’t have time to watch the talk, here is it in text:
We all know intuitively that there are different ways of thinking about things. The same glass, the saying goes, can be seen half full or half empty.

Much research has shown that depending on how you describe the glass to people, it changes how you feel about it.

But have you wondered what happens when you try to switch from thinking about it one way to thinking about it another way? Can we shift back and forth? Or do we get stuck on a particular label?
To investigate this question, Alison Ledgerwood conducted a few simple experiments.

One of the experiments involved telling participants about a new surgical procedure.

The first group of participants were told about the surgical procedure in terms of gains (70% success rate), while the other group were told in terms of losses (30% failure rate).
Unsurprisingly, the gains group liked the procedure a lot more.

However, after this the first group were then told that there is a 30% failure rate, and they immediately didn’t like it.

But when the second group were told that there is a 70% success rate, they still didn’t like the procedure. They were stuck in the initial lost frame.

According to Alison Ledgerwood , these studies show that our view of the world has a fundamental tendency to tilt towards the negative.

It’s pretty easy to go from good to bad but far harder to shift from bad to good.
We literally have to work harder to see the upside of things. It takes effort but you can train your mind to do this better.

There is research out of U.C Davis showing that just writing for a few minutes each day about things that you’re grateful for can dramatically boost your happiness and wellbeing.

We can also rehearse good news and share it with others. It’s no secret that a lot of us complain. It’s like we’re addicted to it, but when we’re talking to others we tend to forget about sharing the good things.
But that’s exactly what our mind needs to practice. It’s about intentionally reshaping the stories in our mind to be more positive.

In other words, start a gratitude journal and talk about your joys!
We also need to think about this from other people’s perspective. We need to be aware that the bad tends to stick. One mean comment can stick with somebody all day or all week. Somebody snaps at you and you snap back and you snap at the next guy too.

But what if the next time somebody snapped at you, you forgave them? What if the next time you had a really grumpy waitress, you left her an extra large tip? Who knows the ripple effect you can create with one small act of kindness
We can retrain our minds to be more positive, more forgiving, and more thankful for the beautiful opportunity that life is.

If you found this article resonates with you, then you may enjoy participating in an online salon titled Brazilian shaman explains why positive thinking is terrible advice on 23rd August, 2017. Salons are deeper explorations of issues raised on The Power of Ideas, Ideapod’s blog. This salon will be a conversation between Brazilian shaman Rudá Iandé and Ideapod CEO Justin Brown. Register now to confirm your place!

6 Cancer Causers at Home That You Should Get Rid of Immediately

6 Cancer Causers at Home That You Should Get Rid of Immediately

Our homes may be hiding more danger than safety.  Indeed quite a lot of information has been shared about the infamous formaldehyde, nitrobenzene and methylene chloride – all carcinogens that can be found in everyday items such as rubber, plastic, dyes, perfumes, shampoos.

Candles
According to a study by the U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), 40 percent of candles on the market contain lead wires inside their wicks. Scented candles most commonly contain lead wicks. Fragrance oils soften the wax, so the manufacturers use lead to make the wicks firmer.

A candle with a lead-core wick releases five times the amount of lead considered hazardous for children and exceeds Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) pollution standards for outdoor air, says the CPSC. Exposure to high amounts of lead may contribute to hormone disruption, behavioral problems, learning disabilities, and many other health problems.
If you want to keep your home softly lit and cozy without risking your health go for beeswax candles with cotton wicks. For more information on how to make your own beeswax candles read How to Make Beeswax Candles.

Art supplies
Certain art supplies like Epoxy and rubber cement glues, acrylic paints and solvents, and permanent markers contain chemicals linked to allergies, organ damage, and cancer.
Children are particularly vulnerable to toxins because of their higher metabolisms, and immature immune systems, so it pays to exercise extra care with the products they use. To find nontoxic and green alternatives to common art supplies, or recipes for making your own, read Are Art Supplies Toxic?

Air fresheners
Many air fresheners have carcinogens, volatile organic compounds and toxins such as phthalate esters in their formulas. A Natural Resources Defense Council (NRDC) study of 13 common household air fresheners found that most of the surveyed products contain chemicals that can aggravate asthma and affect reproductive development.

According to a 2008 study by Anne Steinemann of the University of Washington, all air-fresheners tested gave off chemicals regulated as toxic or hazardous under federal laws, including carcinogens with no safe exposure level. None of these chemicals, however, were listed on  the product labels or Material Safety Data Sheets. As a replacement, try natural fragrances from essential oils.

Shampoos

Unlikely as it may sound, conventional shampoos have too many toxic ingredients. Funny as it may sound,  their effects are still being researched, and there is no scientific consensus  whether they cause cancer. But if you want to be on the safe side, you can use any of the myriad of handmade shampoo bars, offered on etsy, or you can start washing your hair with baking soda, just like I do.

Antiperspirants

Most conventional deodorants and antiperspirants contain several ingredients linked to virulent cancers. Since deodorants and antiperspirants are designed to stay on our bodies for hours, this allows the potential absorption of harmful chemicals through the skin. After I read this article on Green Living Ideas I completely stopped using antiperspirants but am yet to write an extensive post about that.

Shower curtains
Plastic shower curtains leach toxic chemicals not only into your shower or bath, but also into the environment, emitting harmful chemicals called volatile organic chemicals or VOCs.
Reducing your contact with any of these products, in addition to conventional cleaners, will surely make your home your castle.

This article seems to have information that could kill cancer and more

Why Ketogenic Diet is the Healthiest Diet. It Kills Cancer, Treats Depression, Migraines, and Autism

Mounting research suggests nutritional ketosis is the answer to a long list of health problems, starting with obesity. A ketogenic diet (link is external) is one that shifts your body’s metabolic engine from burning carbohydrates to burning fats. A ketogenic diet requires that 50 to 70 percent of your food intake come from beneficial fats, such as coconut oil, grass-pastured butter, organic pastured eggs, avocado, and raw nuts such as pecans and macadamia nuts. The carbs are very very minimal so your body burns fat for energy. That means there is little sugar in your system blocking the body from utilizing fat in favor of burning sugar.

During this state, the body produces ketones, made from fats processed in the liver.
Ketogenic Diet: How to use Ketosis to Lose Weight, Increase Mental Focus, & Feel Truly Alive!
“The end goal of a properly maintained keto diet is to force your body into this metabolic state. We don’t do this through starvation of calories, but through starvation of carbohydrates. Our bodies are extremely adaptive to what you put into it – when you overload it with fats and take away carbohydrates, it will begin to burn ketones as the main energy source,” according to Ruled.me.

Health Benefits of a Ketogenic Diet 

Leads to Weight Loss

Cutting carbs is one of the simplest and most effective ways to lose weight. On a ketogenic diet, dietary carbohydrates are kept very low, protein is moderate and fat consumption is increased, gently encouraging our body to remember how to rely on fat as a primary fuel and to produce ketones from stored body fat.

Fights Cancer

Cancer cells love sugar! Sugar essentially feeds tumors and encourages cancer growth. This is why a diet that gets rid of sugar and other carbohydrates can be effective in preventing or fighting cancer. The regular cells found in our bodies are able to use fat for energy, but cancer cells cannot metabolically shift to use fat.
One review published in Redox Biology highlighted some of them, indicating promising results for colon, gastric, and prostate cancers. In this paper, Dr. Eugene Fine of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine hypothesizes that ketone bodies stop cancers by changing the availability of energy processes in cancer cells. A preliminary paper from Dr. Fine’s team was published and the summary of results states that “Preliminary data demonstrate that an insulin-inhibiting diet is safe and feasible in selected patients with advanced cancer. The extent of ketosis, but not calorie deficit or weight loss, correlated with stable disease or partial remission.”

Protects your brain

The low-carb, high-fat way of eating has also been linked to helping with other neurological disorders. Research published in Behavioral Pharmacology found ketogenic diets may be effective for minimizing symptoms of Parkinson’s disease and Alzheimer’s disease. In one study, Parkinson’s patients who followed a 4-to-1 ketogenic diet experienced, on average, a 43 percent improvement in their symptoms after one month.
Studies also support the benefits of a ketegonic diet for autism.  According to one article, “Autism shares some features with epilepsy, and many people with autism experience seizures related to the over-excitement of brain cells.” Research found that a majority of autistic children showed improvement after following a cyclical ketogenic diet for six months.

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Lotus touts--

Lotus touts

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, "I love you," mean it.

FIVE. When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.

TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY-ONE. Spend some time alone

“Vivamus-   Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

13 Signs You’ve Found a Gentleman

Unfortunately, chivalry seems to be going out of style. Truly, so are good manners and common courtesy. The gentleman is a dying breed. It is tragically difficult to find a man who is patient, considerate, and kind. They are so rare, in fact, that many women will mistake a man’s good manners for a sexual advance.

So – how do you identify a real gentleman?

Here are thirteen signs:

1. He tells the truth.

A gentleman is honest. You can trust him to be straight with you. Even when the truth does not put him in a flattering light, his sense of integrity is greater than his ego.

2. He does not eat until everyone has been served.

He will not act selfishly or impulsively. He is considerate. He is willing to wait patiently to ensure others are comfortable.

3. He stands up for others.

A true gentleman is not only kind, but brave. When he sees someone being abused – physically or verbally – he will confront the offender. He acts as a guardian to the welfare of others.

4. He keeps his sexual adventures between himself and his lady.

He would never humiliate her by sharing their private moments with his friends. He doesn’t need to. He respects himself, and he respects the woman he chooses to be intimate with.

5. He keeps his word.

He does not have to tell you that he is a man of his word. He shows you every day. If a gentleman promises to do something, you can confidently plan your day around it.

6. He pays attention.

When you are speaking to him, he is listening. He isn’t spacing out or checking his phone. He isn’t texting. He is certainly not tweeting.

7. He is kind to everyone.

Even if someone treats him rudely, he does not retaliate. A true gentleman will always choose the high road. He has nothing to gain by lowering his own behavioral standards.

8. He walks by the street when he is walking with you.

He feels more comfortable if his body is between yours and the road. This is a small gesture that often goes unnoticed. He is protective without being overbearing.

9. He is on time.

He respects your time. He is mature enough to stick to a schedule. He gets no pleasure out of making you wait around for him.

10. He offers up his jacket, his seat, his arm…

He is quick to identify the needs of others, and he strives to meet them immediately. He puts your comfort before his own.

11. He reaches for the check.

He offers to pay. If you insist on splitting it, he listens and respects your wishes. He does not make a big show of insisting to foot the bill.

12. He holds the door.

He is patient and attentive. He has good manners that he puts into practice daily.

13. He says “please” and “thank you”.

He excuses himself when he’s made a mistake. His politeness knows no bounds.
“Chivalry: It’s the little boy that kisses my hand, the young man who holds the door open for me, and the old man who tips his hat to me. None of it is a reflection of me, but a reflection of them,” wrote