18 Rules Wives Must Live By During The 1950s--Ha Ha

18 Rules Wives Must Live By During The 1950s

During the old days when women were still not treated as equal to men, the most important role that ladies prepare themselves with is to be a good wife someday. It reminds me pretty much of the movie Mona Lisa Smile which stars Julia Roberts wherein women portrayed how they should act based on the traditional roles that society painted them in.
It is crazy knowing that situations like those existed before, and if you are still not convinced, there is even what they call “The Good Wife’s Guide” which details how a wife can be the best she can to her husband and a mother to her children. These all existed in the 1950s, and being in the present day, most of the women who will read this will definitely react with these strange rules:

1. Always have dinner ready. It should be planned ahead and served once the husband comes home. It is one way to let him know that you think about him and his needs.
2. Wives must greet their husband with a warm welcome, which includes serving his favorite dish for dinner because men are mostly hungry when they go home from work.

3.Have your self prepared. Spend at least 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Make sure to touch up your make up and put a ribbon on your hair.
4. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a little more positivity after a tiring day’s work.

5. Make sure that the house is clean. Check all the parts of the house and remove clutter before the husband arrives. Everything must be organized.

6. Light a fire for him where he can hang out during the cold days of the year. Once he feels well-rested and relaxed, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.
8. Children are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Make sure that you turn off all the noise and manage to get the children to be quiet when he arrives.

9. Smile when you see him. Make him feel that you are happy and delighted to see him come home.
10. His topics of conversation are more important than yours. Reserve all the things you want to say because his time of arrival is not the moment for you to speak. Listen to him.

11. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

12. Your goal is try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where you husband can renew his self in body and spirit.

13. Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.
14. Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

15. Always make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom and have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

16. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Remember to always speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
17. Never question his judgment of integrity. The husband is the master of the house and as such he will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

18. A good wife always knows her place.

Here are the Top 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

 

 

 

Here are the Top 37 Things You’ll Regret When You’re Old

Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, and oftentimes it can lead to regret.
Some people have the philosophy that everything happens for a reason, and there is no point in having regrets.

But for so many of us, looking back on our lives can lead us to linger on one poignant moment or period when we wish we had done things differently, and that nagging question, “What if …?,” plays on repeat in our heads.

Here are 37 of the most common regrets we’re likely to have.

1) Staying in a Relationship You Shouldn’t Be In.

Don’t waste time staying in a relationship with the wrong person.  Allow yourself to get out a bad relationship and move on.

2) Not Using Sunscreen.

Skin cancer is no joke and no one likes wrinkles!  Do yourself a favor and take a few minutes to put on sunscreen before going out in the sun.

3) Not Seeing Your Favorite Bands Live.

Stop telling yourself you’ll see them next time.  One day there won’t be a next time and you’ll regret missing your chance so many times!

4) Not Traveling.

The world is a big place and there’s so much to see!  So don’t be afraid to get out there and see al it has to offer.

5) Not Ending a Toxic Friendship.

Friends are supposed to lift you up, not bring you down.  Don’t get stuck in a bad friendship after it’s run its course.

6) Giving Up Too Easily.

Sometimes the going gets tough, but that doesn’t mean you should give up on what you want.  Keep pushing through and you never know, the rewards could be even greater than you expected!

7) Worrying About Everything.

 Worrying never fixes anything.  Try and accept things as they are and don’t stress yourself out unnecessarily.

 

8) Missing Out on Quality Time with Friends and Family.

You never know what could happen in life.  Hug your loved ones and spend time with them while you still can.  You won’t regret it!

9) Not Networking or Making Contacts.

You never know what could happen when you meet the right person.  Get out there and make friends with the right people and you could end up benefiting greatly!

10) Not Risking it All.

Don’t miss out on a great opportunity because you’re afraid of what might happen.

11) Overworking Yourself.

Are you really going to lie on your deathbed and wish you had worked more at that job you hate?  Probably not, right?

12) Forgetting to Stand Up For Yourself Too.

Don’t be a pushover.  Sometimes you should defend yourself and what you believe in!

13) Not Mastering Your Favorite Meal.

 Learning at least one great meal in your life will make you the start chef among your friends and family!

14) Not Listening to Your Grandparents’ Stories.

Our grandparents have so much information to share and knowledge to pass on.  Listen to them and you never know what you might learn!

15) Not Brushing Your Teeth.

Your teeth are so important and remember how miserable you are when you have a toothache?  Brush and floss and avoid that pain all together.

16) Holding Grudges Against Loved Ones (And in General).

Being angry only hurts you.  Don’t spend too much time being angry at someone for something that may have happened days, months, or even years ago.  It doesn’t do anyone good!

17) Getting Stuck in the Past.

The present is far more important.  Try to let go of the past and what was.  Only focus on what’s to come and what will be!

18) Forgetting to Support Yourself.

Your dreams and desires are important.  Don’t be afraid to go after what you want for once.

19) Listening Too Much to Other’s Opinions.

The only opinion that matters is yours when it comes to your life and choices.

20) Ignoring your Parents’ Advice.

They really do know better.

21) Forgetting to Say “I Love You”.

 

It’s way too important to not let others know they’re important to you!

22) Not Appreciating Your Beauty.

You’re beautiful inside and out.  We spend too much time worrying about how we look instead of appreciating all the things that make us unique.  

23) Being Lazy in School.

Your education is too important to blow off.  Pay attention and hey, maybe you’ll actually learn something!

24) Staying in a Dead-End Job.

Seriously, it’s just a waste of your time and sanity.

25) Listening to Gender Roles.

It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or woman.  You can do whatever you put your mind to!

26) Not Taking Care of Your Health.

Your body takes care of you as best it can, so why not return the favor?

27) Being Too Afraid of Everything.

The world is scary, we know.  But don’t let that keep you from getting what you want.

28) Not Taking Time to Learn a New Language.

Yeah, it’s hard.  But worth it!

29) Only Thinking About Yourself in Your Younger Days.

You really aren’t the center of the universe, you know.

30) Wasting Time.

Time is short and way too precious to just let waste away.  

31) Forgetting to Volunteer Once in a While.

Volunteering is a great way to give back.  Help make the better place and help someone out who needs it!

32) Not Living in the Moment.

There’s no time like the present!

33) Becoming a Master of a Party Trick.

Because wouldn’t it be nice to be the life of the party once in awhile?  Whip out a cool party trick and everyone will remember who you are!

34) Letting Your Culture Define You.

It doesn’t matter where you’re from or what your background is.  You’re entitled to do what you want and be whoever it is you want to be!

35) Being a Drama Queen.

Because drama is a huge waste of your time.

36) Facing Your Fears of Public Performance.

It’s super scary, I know.  No one really likes public speaking.  But why not take the risk and show the world what you can do?

 

37) Not Being More Appreciative Sooner.

At the time, it can be easy to miss all the good things in your life.  Take a moment and appreciate all you have and keep that feeling going!
 REMEMBER the song  from the '70s by  The Masters Apprentices?
"Do Whatcha Wanna do,  Be Whatcha Wanna be."

Government adviser reveals the greatest threat facing humanity (and it’s not nuclear war)

A decade ago, no-one could have predicted the sheer size and impact the Internet has made on our planet. Now that everything including government, healthcare, commerce and financial services are brokered through connected devices, the stakes are much higher.

In the 20th century, nuclear war was the single greatest to human existence. With our ever-increasing connectivity, there is a looming threat on the horizon that makes the threat of nuclear warfare pale in comparison.

As the geopolitical strategist, historian and government adviser Gregory Copley says in the video below, “the threat of nuclear warfare is so 20th century.”

The new threat we’re facing is cyber warfare in an age where everything is connected. The impact of cyber warfare is potentially calamitous, as Copley explains below.

Copley is President of the Washington based International Strategic Studies Association and is the author of over 30 books. His views are regularly sought out by governments around the world. Copley was the keynote speaker at the ADC Forum’s Australian Leadership Retreat, where he shared some fascinating insights on the future of humanity.

Ideapod CEO Justin Brown sat down with Copley to explore his ideas in more depth in the Facebook live video below. Copley began setting the scene for the global threat we face by explaining that new technology can always either enhance or destroy societies. We often make the mistake of extrapolating forward based on recent history rather than seeing that historical trends are usually short lived.

We’re currently going through a time of enormous change, and the growth of disruptive technology is not occurring at the same rate as a generation ago.
The major change, according to Copley, is that “we’re coming into a period of enormous population decline. This is global but it’s disguised by growth in the major urban areas.”

During the 20th century human population grew from 2.5 billion to 7 billion people today. However, now that we’re becoming more urbanized, we’ve changed our reproductive patterns. Urban societies aren’t reproducing enough to replace themselves. Our fertility rates are decreasing.

This is going to fundamentally change the productivity of society and our social cohesion. People will start to move to rural areas as the appeal of living in cities declines. This is going to reduce the value of urban real estate.
Declining property prices will have huge consequences. There will be less capital available for investments into disruptive technology which is only going to accentuate the slowing down of major technological growth.

Here’s the key point:
The current era of constantly rising demand and rising scale is coming to an end. How will we cope?

Cyber weapons will have a greater impact due to centralized power sources

Right now our cities are run by electricity, and we get our electricity from centralized power sources. In an age of global connectivity, if our power supply was disrupted by cyber warfare or natural disasters, then the result will be complete disaster in our cities.

Copley said that if you live in the northeast of America, if you turn off the electricity for two weeks, 30-40 million people will die because they can’t access gas, sewerage systems will be compromised and our water supply will become poisoned. Food won’t be able to be transported in to feed everyone.
Here’s the key point:
Cyber weapons and natural disasters will have a far greater effect than they ordinarily would have.

How you can prepare for the threat

Brown asked Copley how individuals can prepare for this potential dark age of technology. Copley made three suggestions:

1. Create your own autonomous supply of energy off the grid. Storage instruments and batteries are becoming far more capable than a decade ago. Solar panels are now available.
2. Stockpile food. This may be a drastic step but Copley says it’s worth looking into.
3. Decentralize water purification. Don’t be completely reliant on centralized water services. Invest in your own water purification.

It’s going to become a major national security issue for governments around the world to ensure their citizens are protected from the threats of cyber warfare and natural disasters by decentralizing energy supply. We need to transition into smaller power sources.

Copley wasn’t only sharing a bleak perspective. He also said that the current transition period provides incredible opportunities.
“When you see a break in a rigid social structure, there is opportunity. We are leaving behind a managed period and seeing opportunities for people to take leadership and move society forward in new ways.”

10 Ways You Accidentally Look Like An Asshole When You’re Insecure

I’m not an asshole. But sometimes, I come across as one.

 

 

1. You bail on your friends.

There are times when you don’t feel like leaving the house, even though you already have plans, so you tell your friends you can’t make it. You don’t think the group will suffer without you. In fact, you think that they’ll have more fun without you.

Of course, that isn’t the case at all and they end up wondering why you never hang out with them, if you hate them all. It ends up making the people you love feel shitty.

2. You always leave early.

You feel like you don’t fit in at parties, so you make up lies about how you have to wake up early for work the next day or how you have to get home to feed your dog. You don’t want to overstay your welcome, so you’re usually the first one to walk out the door.

But, the thing is, everyone realizes that you’re lying, that you want to get out of there — but they don’t know why. They just think that you want to be alone. That you’re bored of them. That you weren’t having any fun.

3. You look miserable all the time.

Everyone around you is laughing, but you’re struggling to have a good time. The best you can do is fake a smile and they see right through it.

Everyone takes your misery personally, but it has nothing to do with them at all. You’re just depressed. You can’t help it. You wish they understood that.

4. You don’t want any pictures taken of you.

Whenever someone tries to snap a photo of you, you hide your face or yell at them to put down the camera. You hate what you look like, so you don’t want your face to be posted all over social media.

You know your friend was just trying to make some memories with you, but you ruined the fun anyway because of your low self-esteem.

5. You let people walk out of your life.

You never send the first text. You never invite people over to your house. You’re so worried about rejection that you keep yourself in a bubble.

And, when you don’t reach out to people, they assume that you don’t want them around. Slowly, they stop speaking to you, and you don’t do anything to stop them from leaving for good.

6. You stay silent.

When you feel like you have nothing to add to a conversation, you just sit there and listen. You’re quiet, because you don’t want to make a fool of yourself by saying something stupid.

But certain people think that your silence means you’re snobby. That you wish you were somewhere else — and sometimes, that’s exactly the case.

7. You never really talk about yourself.

You don’t think you’re all that interesting, so you never talk about your hobbies or career or weekend. What are you going to say? That you spent the last three days in bed, binge watching 13 Reasons Why? You don’t think anyone wants to hear that.

You don’t even like to make eye contact or smile at strangers, because you’re so insecure, which is why people think you don’t want anything to do with them.

8. You never accept compliments.

When someone tells you how attractive you are, you shake your head and laugh. When someone tells you that they like your eyes or your glasses, you turn the conversation around and mention how much you hate them.

You never do the polite thing and say thank you because you don’t believe they’re telling the truth. And it makes you look like a bit of a bitch.

9. You don’t try to fix your problems.

When you upset one of your friends, you don’t try to apologize and make things right again. You just accept that they’re out of your life forever. You don’t think that you deserve their friendship anyway.

So you let them leave your life without telling them how much you love them. Without fighting to keep the friendship intact.

10. You turn down dates.

Even if you really like someone, you hesitate to have dinner with them, because you’re worried about everything that could go wrong. What if you spill your food? Say something stupid? Have your credit card declined?

Dating just seems like more trouble than it’s worth, which is why you’re always alone, why you always push great people away.

All in all, you feel like you don’t deserve happiness. And it’s ruining your life. 

8 Psychological Tricks Everyone Needs To Know

Life is not always easy. Even with perseverance and confidence, you may fail at times. You may find it difficult to cope with your colleagues. Sometimes, you may face tough times in your personal life. But there is no need to panic. Today, there is no dearth of self-help tips to save you from these hard times. Mastering a few psychological tricks would help you make life easier.

1. When People Don’t Take You Seriously…

This is the worst thing that could happen to you. Even when you tell your friends the most important matters, they may not take you seriously. Wondering how to handle this? Next time, when you tell them something, give the credit to your parents. Make it sound like your father and mother taught you about it. There is a natural tendency among people to believe the advice that comes from parents.

2. When You Know Your Colleague Is Against You…

You get hints when a colleague plans a move against you. If you know someone has decided to point a finger at you in a meeting, make this smart move – deliberately sit right next to him. They will feel uncomfortable to launch a scathing attack against you because of this proximity.

3. When You Want To Learn New Things…

We all know that sharing is caring. Apart from that, it also helps you learn new things. Yes, the best way to acquire a new skill is to share it with others. Get a hold of someone, (of course, someone with listening skills) teach them what you have learned. You will never forget it.

4. When You Want Others To Agree With You…

Making people agree to your argument is not easy. But, try this. Nod your head while you talk. As you nod, it gives them the impression that you are genuine. And they will also nod back. This is enough to make you confident.

5. When Someone Gets Angry At You…

Stay calm. Well, that is an arduous job. However, it has great advantages. Your silence may make the situation worse for some time. But, ultimately you are the winner as they feel ashamed of themselves later.

6. When You Want To Prove Yourself As A Good Listener…

Being a good listener is very crucial to maintain a relationship. Others will appreciate it and it is a time–tested tactic, and an easy way to make friends. So, how do you give that impression? Of course, the first step is listening to them. And then, use those highlights from their talk when you make your point. Paraphrase their statement to show that you heard what they said.

7. When You Are Not Sure Of What You Are Doing…

Embrace and portray confidence. There is not much difference between confidence and brilliance. Believe in yourself and act like you know what you are doing.

8. When You Feel Someone Is Watching You…

You may often feel that you are being watched by someone in the crowd. Next time, take a big yawn. Watch to see who follows suit. The person watching you will likely yawn as well. Because a yawn usually sets off a chain reaction since they’re contagious.

Study: Vegetarian Blood Is 8x More Effective At Killing Cancer Cells

Eschewing animal products isn’t only good for the planet, it improves your odds of living a long and healthy life!

At present, 1 in 2 men and 1 in 3 women in the United States will develop cancer in their lifetimes. Furthermore, the number of cancer cases is expected to double by the year 2050. Obviously, this news is distressing. However, there is hope, and the solution could be as simple as eating more unprocessed plant-based foods.

According to a study conducted in 2005, scientists have learned that blood taken from vegans is 8 times more effective at killing cancer cells than blood taken from those following a Standard American Diet.


A series of experiments helped unearth these findings. Collective Evolution relays that test subjects were assigned opposing diets which they maintained for over a year. After participants’ blood was taken, it was pitted against cancer cells in a petri dish. The ultimate goal was to determine which diet resulted in blood that was more effective at suppressing cancer growth in the prostate.

The study states:

“Experimental group patients were prescribed an intensive lifestyle program that included a vegan diet supplemented with soy (1 daily serving of tofu plus 58 gm of a fortified soy protein powdered beverage), fish oil (3 gm daily), vitamin E (400 IU daily), selenium (200 mcg daily) and vitamin C (2 gm daily), moderate aerobic exercise (walking 30 minutes 6 days weekly), stress management techniques (gentle yoga based stretching, breathing, meditation, imagery and progressive relaxation for a total of 60 minutes daily) and participation in a 1-hour support group once weekly to enhance adherence to the intervention.

10 The diet was predominantly fruits, vege- tables, whole grains (complex carbohydrates), legumes and soy products, low in simple carbohydrates and with approx- imately 10% of calories from fat.11 The diet is intensive but palatable and practical. In earlier studies most patients were able to adhere to this diet for at least 5 years.”

The blood belonging to vegan eaters had nearly eight times the stopping power when it comes to cancer cell growth. It is important to note that participants on the plant-based diet also partook in stress management groups, yoga, and other techniques to show how lifestyle choices affect cancer.

Subsequent studies against breast cancer revealed the power of eating plants for just two weeks. After just 14 days, a dramatic strengthening of cancer defenses was shown from eating a plant-based diet and engaging in light exercise (walking between 30 to 60 minutes a day).

Samples of blood were taken from women with breast cancer, and then the women were asked to spend 14 days on a plant-based diet and perform 30-60 minutes of light exercise daily. After 14 days their blood was taken again and found to significantly slow down the growth of cancer, as well as increase the blood’s ability to kill cancer cells.

However, because scientists wanted to determine how much effect the exercise component had in suppressing cancer growth, or whether the plant-based diet was solely responsible for the boost in defense, a separate experiment was conducted. The results found that exercise helps suppress cancer growth, but a plant-based diet alone has twice as much power to kill cancer cells.

Clearly, lifestyle changes can have a huge impact on one’s long-term health and quality of life. And, having blood that’s more inhospitable to cancer growth is just one major health advantage of consuming a vegan diet. Other benefits include reducing carbon output and saving hundreds of animals’ lives each year.

Forgetting Things Could Actually Be Making You Smarter

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Forgetting Things Could Actually Be Making You Smarter

  This is worth remembering.
New research suggests bouts of forgetfulness could be caused by a safety mechanism in the brain designed to make sure we’re not overloaded with information. In other words, it’s a healthy part of the brain’s operation.

That might come as a relief if you’re always forgetting where you left your house keys, but it could also teach us more about how the brain operates, something scientists are still trying to figure out.
According to the two researchers from the University of Toronto in Canada, memory isn’t intended to help transmit the most accurate information, but rather the most useful information that can help us make smart decisions in the future.


“It’s important that the brain forgets irrelevant details and instead focuses on the stuff that’s going to help make decisions in the real world,” explains one of the researchers, Blake Richards.
Richards and his colleague Paul Frankland reviewed previously published papers taking different approaches to the idea of memory. Some looked at the neurobiology of remembering, or persistence, while others looked at the neurobiology of forgetting, or transience.


“We find plenty of evidence from recent research that there are mechanisms that promote memory loss, and that these are distinct from those involved in storing information,” says Frankland.
The researchers found evidence of the deliberate weakening of the synaptic connections between neurons that help to encode memories, as well as signs that new neurons overwriting existing memories, to make them harder to access.


So why is the brain spending time trying to make us forget? Richards and Frankland think there are two reasons.
One, forgetting helps us adjust to new situations by letting go of memories we don’t need – so if your favorite coffee shop has moved to the other side of town, forgetting its old location helps you remember the new one.
Second, forgetting allows us to generalize past events to help us make decisions about new ones, a concept known in artificial intelligence as regularization. If you just remember the main gist of your previous visits to the coffee shop rather than every little detail, then it’s less work for your brain to work out how to behave the next time you go in.

“If you’re trying to navigate the world and your brain is constantly bringing up multiple conflicting memories, that makes it harder for you to make an informed decision,” says Richards.
The researchers also think the amount of forgetting we do could depend on the environment, with a faster pace of change requiring a faster pace of forgetting too.

One experiment mentioned in the paper that Frankland was also a part of involved mice looking for a maze. When the location of the maze was moved, mice that were drugged to forget the old location found the new one more quickly.

There’s no doubt forgetting information we need to remember too often is a frustrating experience – and maybe the sign of more serious problems – but the new research suggests a certain level of forgetfulness is actually a built-in mechanism designed to make use smarter.

Maybe that’s something to mention at the next trivia night at your local bar.
“We always idealize the person who can smash a trivia game, but the point of memory is not being able to remember who won the Stanley Cup in 1972,” says Richards.

“The point of memory is to make you an intelligent person who can make decisions given the circumstances, and an important aspect of helping you do that is being able to forget some information.

These 8 body language tricks are hard to master but they’ll pay off forever.

 

What’s the secret to effective communication? 

Some people say it’s talking clearly. Others might say it’s being empathetic. 

The truth is, 55% of communication is body language, while 38% is tone of voice and 7% is the actual words spoken. 

So if you want to rapidly improve your communication, it’s most effective to start with the body. 

And in today’s post, we’re going to go over 8 body language tricks that you might not know about it. 

While they might be hard to master at first, if you stick at it, they’ll benefit you for a lifetime.

1) Mirror the person you’re speaking to

This is all about aligning your body to match the position of who you’re speaking to.
There’s something quite powerful when you meet someone who just “gets you”. When you start mimicking their body language, they’ll start to feel more connected to you. You’re showing them that you’re similar.
People who are attracted to one another end up in sync with one another. They pick up on each other’s mannerisms and adopt similar speech patterns.
It’s an unconscious process but you can trigger it intentionally through mirroring.
Hint: It’s important to be subtle about it!

2) Walk with purpose and energy.

Not everyone walks with confidence. In fact, most people slump their shoulders and look down.
But according to Scientific American, people make snap judgements about confidence, attractiveness and trustworthiness. And you can improve these judgements simply by walking straight and standing tall.

3) Maintain eye contact.

People who struggle to maintain eye contact come across as anxious, distracted or dishonest. While this can be a tough skill for some people to master as they can feel awkward, it’s a practice that can help you immensely.
Communication expert Leil Lowndes advises you to, “pretend your eyes are glued to your conversation partner’s with sticky, warm taffy.”
Once you start focusing on this, you’ll immediately see an improvement in your face-to-face communications with others.

4) Keep your hands visible.

It can be hard to know what to do with your hands, especially if you’re talking to a group of people. You might compulsively jam them in your pockets or cross your arms. However, these moves can project a negative image.
But by showing your hands and using more open body language, you can let people in and make them feel more comfortable.

5) Don’t fidget, but don’t be too stiff.

Some people can come across as fearful or annoying if they’re constantly twitching their fingers or tapping their toes. However, you should also watch out for people who aren’t moving at all.
It’s actually natural to move your body around in subtle and relaxed ways when you’re in conversation. Someone who is completely rigid is a warning sign that something is a little off.
Try to strike a balance between swaying and stiffness.

6) Sit up straight.

Your parents likely yelled at you when you had a terrible posture as a moody teen. While it may have been annoying at the time, they were onto something.
Slumping over in a chair can indicate that you lack confidence. However, sitting up straight is seen as a sign of intelligence, confidence and credibility.
Your posture is not always easy to correct when you sit, but it can be done.

7) Work on your handshake.

No one wants to receive a “dead fish” handshake. You’ve probably heard the phrase, “a weak handshake means a weak person.” So, how do you give off a good impression with a handshake?
Arora from Linkedin breaks it down: “When squeezing your hand you want the grip to be tight enough to feel the bones of the other person’s hand lightly pressing into your skin and then keeping the same amount of pressure while you make two to three moderately strong shakes in the vertical plain. Maintain eye contact and a smile throughout.”

8) Slow down.

When you’re nervous, it can be easy to speed up everything, including your movements. However, it’s far better to try to slow down.
Take a deep breath, slow down and be more intentional with your movements. You’ll come across as more confident and competent.

7 Ways To Stop Feeling Like Shit

Sometimes the changing of seasons can weigh you down and knock you out, leaving you grumpy, tired and all-in-all: shitty. Lucky for us, there are steps we can take to help reverse these less-than-desirable feelings. Everything is attainable and at the end of the day, [at the risk of sounding cliché], the only thing stopping you from feeling your best is YOU. Here are 7 steps you can follow to stop feeling like shit:


1. Stop Hitting The Snooze Button
When we hit the snooze button it gives our brain the message that we don’t want the day to start. I’m well aware that the sound of that obnoxious alarm at 6:30 AM makes us want to curl in bed for another 2 hours at least, but it’s time to make the most of your mornings.

These precious hours are the only time in the day that we don’t have to open our mouths and answer to anyone yet… what could be better?!


2. Give Up Animal Products for 1 Week
Disclaimer: I’m not vegetarian, vegan, raw, paleo, gluten-free, or any restricted diet for that matter, but I do believe that moderation is the key to health and happiness.

If I’m feeling really weighed down, I’ll try and switch up my diet. Giving up animal products (yes, that includes dairy) for 1 week can totally flip my mood around… before I start craving baked salmon and roast chicken again. If you don’t think you can change up your diet for just 1 week, try out these vegan recipes, and your mind will surely change.


3. Change Your Scenery
Stagnant scenery is guaranteed to make you feel stagnant. That being said, there are a couple ways you can change it up. Option 1: Get out of town for the weekend. Drive a few hours away and mellow out in a new area with your loved ones, or even solo.

You don’t have to travel across the world to take a vacation (but if you can, why not?!). Option 2: Redecorate your home. I don’t mean that you should go out and spend thousands of dollars on new stuff; there are so many wallet-friendly ways you can do it on your own. You can try re-wallpapering a room (great tutorial here) or jazzing up the look of your kitchen (6 easy ideas here). Get creative, but get out!


4. Stretch Your Body
It’s no secret that little-to-no physical exercise will leave you feeling like shit. Keeping your body strong and flexible helps you today, tomorrow and the years to come. If you aren’t big into physical activity, be sure to at least stretch out. There are so many at-home yoga videos that leave you with no excuse!


5. Start Juicing
Sadly, most of the population does not get enough of their essential vitamins and minerals coming from fruits and veggies. Being malnourished (even when you don’t realize you are) can really weigh you down, leaving you fatigued and bloated constantly.

 One great way to try and get your RDI (recommended daily intake) is by drinking fresh juice everyday. There are so many great juice recipes out there that finding inspiration isn’t hard.

If you don’t have a juicer, find a great juice bar or brand from a trusted supermarket and try incorporating one drink daily. If you’re worried about the expense that juicing can bring on, try this: one tablespoon of Vitamineral Greens + 1 teaspoon of Liquid Chlorophyll mixed with an 8-ounce jar of filtered water. This is a good, inexpensive and time saving option that will deliver your necessary greens.



6. Take Your Vitamins
Don’t forget to take your vitamins! It is possible to get your daily dose from your dietary intake (5 foods for vitamin c here and vitamin d here). But for a lot of us, grabbing the jar of vitamins is a more surefire way to make sure you get everything in.

Always consult with your doctor, but some vitamins I like to have in my cabinets are: probiotics, fish oil, iron, vitamin e and a total daily vitamin. After you talk to your doctor and begin taking vitamins for 1 month, you will definitely feel a difference in your skin, muscles and energy level.



7. Stop Questioning Yourself
Do you find yourself wanting to do or say something, then over thinking it and stopping yourself? Imagine what life would be like if you just stopped questioning yourself and did everything you wanted. Mind you, I’m not talking about quitting the job you hate without an alternative, or egging your ex’s car… I’m talking about starting the dance class you’ve been thinking about or sharing the blog you’ve been hiding for months in the fear of rejection.

If you feel like crap, you need to take action by keeping yourself healthy and your mind stimulated.  So stop questioning yourself and start living for you!

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The standard menu for the average American nowadays is packed with processed foods full of chemicals and toxins that contain either too much sugar or salt. In addition we have the rising trend of mass production and availability of genetically modified foods, something that  has caused an uproar in almost every first world country.

All of these foods are so different and far away from anything older generations saw on their menu that your grandfather and grandmother would not even recognize what we eat today as actual food. Some even joke nowadays, saying that we do not eat food in today’s society; we eat food – like products.

Needless to say, these trends have had a profoundly negative effect on the health of an entire generation which is why we see a rise in all sorts of diseases, from diabetes and cancer to heart failure and even depression.

It has been medically proven that the majority of such diseases arises and can only flourish in a miss-balanced pH state of the body. That means, the more acidic the state of our body is, the better the conditions for developing cancer or a heart disease.
On the other side of the spectrum is the alkaline state, which is the state of health and balance. There are foods that will help you maintain your optimal pH state, and here we discuss some of the best you can start consuming today.

1. Olive oil

Olive oil is high on vitamins, particularly vitamin E and moderate fatty accids.

2. Melons

This fruit is excellent for detoxing your colon, are very alkaline with an average pH level of 9. Deliver a wealth of fiber and are made up of 90% water so they are excellent for hydration.

3. Flax Seed

These seeds are full of fiber and vitamin E. They regulate the pH value of your body and help with inflammation.

4. Buckwheat

Buckwheat is a powerful replacement for wheat and a very good breakfast food for energy. In addition it helps with prevention with cardiovascular disease.

In a quick list here are some additional foods that you can consume that help with your pH balance:

• Berries are rich with vitamins A and D and are packed with antioxidants.

• Parsley is a green goodness that will help you cleanse your intestines.

• Grapefruit is also jam packed with vitamins, all of which are helpful to your health.

• Mango is an excellent choice for detoxing your colon.

• Avocado needs no introduction as it is widely considered one of the best foods on the planet.

• Pineapple is very good at detoxing your body and helping with weight loss.

• Garlic may not be everyone’s favorite but the health benefits it provides are second to none.

• Broccoli helps with lowering your cholesterol levels.

• Bananas, especially extra ripe ones are even considered to have cancer fighting properties.

• Cucumbers with their 90% water content helps with skin health, look and hydration.

• Lemons are the vitamin C superfood of the world and help with treating the flu, coughing and colds.

Use These 8 Psychological Tricks To Become Everybody’s Favorite Person Immediately

We are social beings, and as such it is very important to us that we are a part of a quality group of family members and friends. We have an innate need to know that we are contributing and to feel loved, appreciated and accepted.

In fact, the quality of our social relationships will ultimately determine the quality of our lives. If we cannot connect with people on a meaningful level, the chances are we will struggle emotionally in our lives.

Meeting new people and strengthening friendships is both a skill and a form of art. It can also be very time and energy consuming, especially if you are not the most outgoing and outspoken person.
Here we have prepared for you a short of list of social hacks, or just tips if you will, on the things you could pay some more attention to in your quest to form a social circle suited to your needs and liking.

1. Copy the other person’s behavior

In neuroscience, this is known as mirroring and it basically means mimicking individual gestures the other person is making. More sensitive, socially analytical people like empaths do this without realizing.

The basic psychology behind this is that it increases the other person’s perception of how compatible the two of you are, as friends or maybe something more. You become more relatable, once he/she notices similarities in your facial expressions and body language.

2. Invest in physically meeting people

The social sciences call this the mere exposure effect, and it is based on the fact that the more people see you being physically present in their everyday lives, the more they will start to like you. Now, all of us have a certain person in our life who would gladly see less of, but the science behind the exposure still stands, so please bear with us.

3. Compliments and positive affirmations are the way

A social interaction phenomena noted by science called spontaneous trait transference says that the words you use to describe other people will probably end up being the same words that people use to describe you.

This might be spot on the truth if you consider the fact that we tend to verbally express the way we feel inside, and a person’s energy is contagious so people will sense that in us. Be it positive or negative. The kind of vibes you send out are the ones you will receive back.

4. Keep a good mood.

Now, we know this is so much easier said than done, but please know that even the most negative people feel good around positive energy. Positivity and love are the natural state of every being, so it is very important for the quality of your social interactions to take care of your energy and mood.

Being in a good state of mind will attract more quality people and interactions. Communicate positive emotions and people will start to associate you with the positive energy you bring and hold you in much higher regard.

5. Socialize and then socialize some more

You will quickly become even closer to a person if first you’ve befriended one or more of that person’s friends. It is a social effect called the triadic closure and it describes the human tendency to open up even more to another person if first they’ve had common friends.

6. Use compliments wisely

We all love compliments. It might be we are just enjoying some ego food, or the need might go deeper into our desire to be recognized and valued by others. It might be both, but the point we are trying to convey here is that compliments can be very powerful in getting people to like you, if you use them right. So keep them honest, and in moderation.

There is a theory in interpersonal relationships called the gain – loss theory, that stresses the quality and frequency of complimenting as key in determining how attractive you will be to others.

7. Relax and never hide your flaws.

Now obviously we wouldn’t advise you to share every little embarrassing and awkward thing you’ve done in your life. However, the healthy thing to do is to fully accept yourself the way you are and do not be afraid if some (imperfect) aspects of your persona come out every now and then.


That will make you more natural and relatable in social circles. We all know nobody is perfect, and that is why we tend to like other ‘flawed’ people. This is called the pratfall effect, and it is a very powerful concept to keep in mind in your everyday social interactions.

8. The common values effect.

Human interactions seem to be ruled by individual preferences, (un)realistic perceptions and psychological manipulation. The human mind is such an impressionable thing, and one of the best ways you can connect with another person is by emphasizing common interests, values or goals.

It is called the similarity – attraction effect and it is amazing how far being a fan of the same sports club or having went to the same college can take a friendship.


The investments you make in people, in building a network of relationships are never a waste of your resources. Some people will be there for you, while others will disappoint. But at the end of the day, everyone will be worth it, for all of them will have something to teach you.

Here are 23 of Depp quotes on being yourself, loving life, and loving each other.

The Brilliance of Johnny Depp

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Most of all I really like 2 things about Johnny Depp: 1. He is totally selfless and does a ton of charity work 2. He has an awesome outlook on life, and people.

Here are 23 of  Depp quotes on being yourself, loving life, and loving each other.

“If someone were to harm my family or a friend or somebody I love, I would eat them. I might end up in jail for 500 years, but I would eat them.”

“if you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you really loved the first one, you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.”

“Music touches us emotionally, where words alone can’t.”

“My body is my journal, and my tattoos are my story.”

“We’re all damaged in our own way. Nobody’s perfect. I think we’re all somewhat screwy. Every single one of us.”

“Just keep moving forward and don’t give a shit about what anybody thinks. Do what you have to do, for you.”

“The only creatures that are evolved enough to convey pure love are dogs and infants.”

“There are four questions of value in life… What is sacred?   Of what is the spirit made?   What is worth living “for, and,   What is worth dying for?   The answer to each is same. Only love.”

“I try to stay in a constant state of confusion just because of the expression it leaves on my face.”

“When kids hit 1-year-old, it’s like hanging out with a miniature drunk. You have to hold onto them. They bump into things. They laugh and cry. They urinate. They vomit.”

“She’s kind of a walking poem, she’s this perfect beauty…but at the same time very deep, very smart.”

“I don’t think anybody’s necessarily ready for death. You can only hope that when it approaches, you feel like you’ve said what you wanted to say. Nobody wants to go out in mid-sentence.”

“You gotta be careful: don’t say a word to nobody about nothing anytime ever.”

“You can close your eyes to the things you don’t want to see, but you can’t close your heart to the things you don’t want to feel.”

“I’m shy, paranoid, whatever word you want to use. I hate fame. I’ve done everything I can to avoid it.”

“The term ‘serious actor’ is kind of an oxymoron, isn’t it? Like ‘Republican party’ or ‘airplane food.'”

“I am doing things that are true to me. The only thing I have a problem with is being labeled.”

“If there’s any message, it is ultimately that it’s okay to be different; that it’s good to be different, that we should question ourselves before we pass judgment on someone who looks different, behaves different, talks different, is a different color.”

“I think the thing to do is to enjoy the ride while you’re on it.”

“They say the world used to be bigger. The world’s still the same–there’s just less in it.”

“My daughter was asked by a little old lady in a London hotel restaurant what her daddy did. She answered, “He’s a pirate” – I was very proud of that answer.”

“Growing old is unavoidable, but never growing up is possible. I believe you can retain certain things from your childhood if you protect them – certain traits, certain places where you don’t let the world go.”

“I don’t pretend to be captain weird. I just do what I do.”

“They stick you with those names, those labels — ‘rebel’ or whatever; whatever they like to use. Because they need a label; they need a name. They need something to put the price tag on the back of.”

Apple Seeds and Cancer: What the Government Has Been Hiding From You for Years

The mere mention of consuming apple seeds, cherry pits, apricot seeds, or bitter almonds tends to cause almost panic attacks or angry reactions in some. Why? Cyanide is in them. So they’re justified in freaking out, right?

As a rumor based on too little knowledge, their concern is understandable. All you have to do is Google cyanide alongside any of the foods mentioned above and you’ll get a plethora of articles that all support the cyanide dangers from those seeds and nuts.

Some say that your body quickly detoxes the compounds containing cyanide. Others say that you will get free cyanide when your body metabolizes those compounds. Most concede that it would take a heck of a lot of pits, seeds, or bitter almonds to poison you.

But as the saying goes, “a little knowledge is a dangerous thing.” In this case the fear of fruit seeds and bitter almonds and other nuts is based on incomplete data. The compound containing cyanide is amygdalin.

The complete amygdalin story for full knowledge

Thousands have used apricot seed kernels to eliminate cancer. They didn’t die from cyanide poisoning. They were cured without negative side effects. This wasn’t accomplished by consuming a couple every week, but dozens daily for months. (Sydney Herald source below)

So why weren’t they weren’t poisoned? The amygdalin compound has four molecules. Two are glucose molecules. The other two are cyanide and benzaldyhide. The last two are scarycompounds, except for a couple of unusual metabolic activities: they are released by and into cancer cells only.

Otherwise, they remain in the amygdalin compound and are passed through. It’s a very clever arrangement. The cancer cells depend on fermenting sugar (glucose) for their energy instead of oxygen.

So the cancer cells attract the amygdalin compounds for their glucose, but are whacked when they metabolize those compounds that free the benzalldyhide and cyanide.

The glucose is the sugar bait. Cancer cells contain an enzyme that is not found in healthy cells, beta-glucosidase.
The beta-glucosidase enzyme “unlocks” the amygdalin compound, releasing the deadly toxins within the cancer cell. Only cancer cells metabolize amygdalin. Healthy normal cells don’t.

Most non-cancerous cells contain another enzyme, rhodanese. Free cyanide molecules are bound to sulfur molecules by rhodanese, creating harmless cyanates that are eliminated in the urine.

This is the little bit of knowledge that those “scary” articles reference when they say a little bit of cyanide is easily detoxed by your body. But the complete function of amygdalin is hidden because the fact that laetrile or B17, a concentrated extract from apricot amydgalins, can cure cancer is taboo.

Supressing a safe cancer cure

Laetrile or B17, was developed by San Francisco researcher Dr. Ernst Krebb in 1952 by liquefying and purifying amygdalin from apricot seeds so it could be injected into cancer patients. Dr. Krebb injected himself to assure laetrile’s safety, and Dr. John Richardson proved its efficacy by curing several cancer patients in San Francisco with laetrile.

In 1971, laetrile was banned. Dr. Richardson called on investigative journalist G. Edward Griffin to publicize the merits of laetrile or B17 derived from apricot seeds. Griffin discovered that the Sloane-Kettering Institute’s laetrile trials leading to the FDA ban were bogus.

Sloane-Kettering spokesperson Dr. Ralph Moss refused to lie about laetrile and left Sloane-Kettering in disgust. He slipped Griffin unpublicized papers scientifically proving laetrile actually worked. This led to Griffin’s book A World Without Cancer, where you can read much more about the amygdalin cancer curing story.
If not promoted as a cancer cure, apricot seeds aren’t banned. Avoid sugar while attempting to cure cancer with any method.

A neuroscientist reveals the most important factor in changing your brain and improving your mood

Have you ever wondered if you can change your brain, even though you’re an adult?
Not too long ago, it was generally believed that once a human was fully developed, their brain remained fixed. This meant that we couldn’t grow new brain cells, nor could we change the structure of the brain.

But recent neuroscience has proven this wrong.

Coined as neuroplasticity, research has found that the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain change in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.
In this riveting TED talk, neuroscientist Sandrine Thuret explains how our brain produces 700 new neurons per day in the hippocampus.

While you might not think this is much, compared to the billions of neurons we have, by the time we turn 50, we will have exchanged the neurons we were born with in that structure with adult-born neurons.

According to Thuret, neurons are crucial for memory capacity and for the quality of those memories.
More interestingly, Thuret says that new research is showing a strong link between neurogenesis (the process of birth of neurons) and depression. In an animal model of depression, it has been found that there’s a lower level of neurogenesis.

And by giving anti-depressants, it increases the production of these newborn neurons and decrease the symptoms of depression, establishing a clear link between neurogenesis and depression.
More importantly, if you block neurogenesis, then you block the efficacy of the anti-depressant.
In short, there’s enough evidence to suggest that neurogenesis is the target of choice if we want to improve memory, mood and even prevent the decline associated with aging.

Of course, the question we’re all wondering is: Can we control neurogenesis?

The answer is yes we can. Watch the TED talk below to find out how:
For those of you who were too lazy to watch the video, here are the answers to increasing neurogensis:
– Constantly learn new things

– Reduce Stress
– Have sex
– Get enough sleep
– Calorie restriction of 20-30 percent
– Intermittent fasting – spacing time between meals – will increase neurogenesis.
– Intake of flavanois, which are contained in dark chocolate and blueberries.
– Omega-3 fatty acids, present in fatty fish, like Salmon.

– A diet rich in saturated fat will have a negative impact on neurogenesis.
– Ethanol – intake of alcohol – will decrease neurogenesis.
– Resveratrol, contained in red wine, has been to shown to promote the survival of these new neurons.

7 “Spiritual” Things People Do That Are Complete Bullshit!

Have you heard someone say that they’re a “spiritual type of person”.
Or that they believe in “energy” and “higher vibrations”.
Yep, thanks to the popularity of mindfulness and positive psychology, spirituality has blown up in the western world.
But are these people really more enlightened than the rest of us? Not exactly.

In fact, more than likely they’re full of sh*t.
Here’s why:

1) They engage in “spiritual” practices to feel superior to you

Yep, the motivation behind meditating and yoga isn’t inner peace. It’s to feel better than you.
I’m not saying everyone that meditates is like this, but it’s incredibly easy for it to become an ego satisfying experience – to believe that you’re simply more wise and spiritual because you’re engaging in what’s considered a spiritual activity.
This type of thinking restricts authentic spirituality because you end up relying more on the ego and less on connecting with yourself and others.

2) They judge anyone who expresses negative emotions such as anger

They believe that emotions like anger and anxiety are “lower vibration” and need to be looked down upon.
The truth is, anger and anxiety are natural human emotions and are a useful response to many different circumstances.

They can be a helpful indicator that something needs to be changed in yourself or your relationships.
So, what happens?
Believing that they have to remain positive 24/7, they end up repressing negative emotions and becoming less connected to who they really are. 

3) They adopt new hobbies simply because they’re the new “spiritual fad”

It’s human nature to want to fit in. We all need to feel like we belong.
And for many people, spirituality is simply a cool thing that they want to belong to. That’s why they immediately get involved in yoga, meditation, music festivals etc.
Yet, if you’re just doing it to fit in or be cool, you’re denying yourself the chance to participate in authentic spiritual experiences. 

4) They use “spirituality” to justify excessive drug use

It’s no secret that psychedelic drugs can, on occasion, lead to enhanced spirituality.
While this is great, some people use this an excuse to rationalize constant drug use.
However,  addiction to these substances is simply another attachment. And like any addiction, there are certainly negative side effects to it. 

5) They believe that positivity will solve the world’s problems

Okay, maybe not ALL of the world’s problems,, but these type of people use the phrase “just be positive” far too often.

The positivity movement is extremely popular these days. While there are certainly benefits to being positive, the harder and more brutal aspects of life will still be there at the end of the day. 
In fact, by denying negative emotions,  you become less aware of yourself and others.
True spirituality means embracing ALL your emotions and becoming more conscious of yourself and others.

6) They feel self-loathing when they confront the negative aspects of themselves

 

 

Because engaging in spiritual practices leaves one feeling superior and better than others, it becomes hard to accept shortcomings.
And fair enough. In spirituality, the people you’re meant to idolize are gurus like the Buddha or The Dalai Lama, who appear as if they’re perfect human beings.
So when you make mistakes or have weaknesses, you feel like that you aren’t “good enough”.
But nobody is perfect, not even these spiritual gurus. We’re all human and we all make mistakes.
A more fulfilling and rewarding behaviour is to accept these mistakes and learn from them.

7) They want spiritual practices to be correct so they disregard science entirely

 

There’s a big anti-science trend in the spiritual community. Why? Because many of the practices considered valuable in spirituality are treated as pseudoscience within the scientific community.
This doesn’t mean that there’s no value to these practices. It’s just that it’s validity hasn’t been found in scientific experiments. 
The scientific method is a great tool for understanding the world around us and has enabled our society to progress in some amazing ways. 
And anyway, as Carl Sagan said years ago, science is actually a profound source of spirituality:

“Science is not only compatible with spirituality; it is a profound source of spirituality. When we recognize our place in an immensity of light years and in the passage of ages, when we grasp the intricacy, beauty and subtlety of life, then that soaring feeling, that sense of elation and humility combined, is surely spiritual. So are our emotions in the presence of great art or music or literature, or of acts of exemplary selfless courage such as those of Mohandas Gandhi or Martin Luther King Jr. The notion that science and spirituality are somehow mutually exclusive does a disservice to both.”