A sapiosexual is defined as: “One who finds intelligence the most
sexually attractive feature,” and they are way more common than you’d
think. Intelligence truly is sexy, and there is a scientific basis to
why.
According to Diana Rabb, a Ph.D. in transpersonal psychology:
“The
brain is the largest sex organ. Those who admit to being sapiosexual
will say that they are turned on by the brain and tend to be teased or
excited by the insights of another person. As foreplay, the sapiosexual
person may crave philosophical, political or psychological discussions
because this turns [him or her] on.”
As a self-admitted sapiosexual, I think attraction has a lot of different elements, but intelligence is the one that shines through the brightest.
A common trait among sapiosexuals is that they can almost instantly
identify intelligence in others, and when they do, it is found to be
extremely attractive. As an example, let’s say you are reading a book
about obscure Russian poetry, and someone approaches you and comments on
the book.
That person actually having knowledge about things that
interest your brain, for a sapiosexual, is just about the sexiest
scenario they can imagine. There are a lot of reasons that we are
attracted to others, but being attracted directly to another person’s
brain is considered weird in our current society. To me, that is sad to
say the least. Being attracted to intelligence just makes sense.
Intelligence is More Fulfilling
Sure, there is something to be said about being physically
attractive, but unlike looks – intelligence is lasting. Sapiosexuals
know that a good conversation is way more fulfilling than just looking
good naked. Scientist have suggested a number of reasons that lead us
towards understanding the link between intelligence and attraction, but
in my opinion it simply boils down to substance. Smart people know that
substance goes a long way, especially when it comes to other people.
That’s why intelligent people tend to be loners, and why they are very
particular about who they share themselves with.
Higher IQ means Higher Sex Drive
The adult sex toy retailer Lovehoney reported that there is a very strong correlation between
intelligence and sex drives.
Based on their sales data, they showed a “heightened interest in sex
among students in the Russell Group of elite universities.” Based on
that data, one could extrapolate that smarter people have higher sex
drives. That doesn’t however mean that they have more sex. According to a
2007 article entitled “Intercourse and Intelligence,” 80% of U.S. males
and 75% of U.S. women have had sex by the age of 19. Compare that to
56% of Princeton undergraduates, 59% of Harvard undergraduates and 51%
of MIT undergraduates who report having had sexual intercourse.
Amazingly, only 65% of MIT graduate students have ever had sex. To me,
this doesn’t mean that smart people have less sex, it means that they
are pickier and smarter about it.
Evolutionary History
Professor Geoffrey Miller of the University of New Mexico, tested 400
men for their overall intelligence, and then asked them for a sperm
sample. What he found was that the men who scored the highest on the
cognitive tests had the healthiest sperm. Miller believes that brain
quality is tied directly to sperm quality, and is therefore a genetic
trait that can be passed down through generations. He explains, “Traits
such as language,
humor, and intelligence evolved in both sexes, because they were sexually attractive to both sexes.”
So basically language and humor, as they pertain to intelligence, developed as a way to advertise that you had good sperm.
If you think of it in terms of human evolution, our ancient ancestors
would have wanted an intelligent partner simply for the purposes of
survival. A dumb partner would mean a less secure existence. Now
granted, we are more evolved creatures now, but I think that the same
basic instincts exist in us.
We want a funny, intelligent, capable partner because it makes for a better life.
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