One aspect of life that will always remain a constant is that it will
always challenge you. That’s just part of the journey, friends, and if
you aren’t tough – life will eat you up.
I’m not talking about being physically tough, any ogre can pull that off. I am talking about mental toughness.
The traits of your personality that afford for thicker skin and
shorter memories, which in my opinion are all you need to get through
this life a happy, fulfilled, and well-rounded person.
These are my personal traits of mental toughness that we should all aspire to:
1. Pick your Battles
Some things in life you’ve just got to let go. If every little
stimulus gets your hackles up, then guess what: you spend your life
fighting. Even if you happen to be a third-world warlord, constant
conflict isn’t something that makes for a
productive life.
2. Judge Not, lest you be Judged
Instead of focusing your magnifying glass on everyone in your life,
why not turn it into a mirror? If you want everyone around you to let
you be yourself, then let them be themselves.
3. Don’t be Afraid to Ask for Help
Even the mightiest people you’ve even encountered in your life all
need help at some point. Superman needed Lois Lane. Batman needed Robin.
Bert Needed Ernie. Let go of your pride, and ask for help when you need
it.
4. Forgive
Holding on to grudges is like holding on to poison. Let it go.
Forgiveness is the antidote to hate.
The second that you think you are above criticism is the second that
you quit growing as a person. Growth comes from stripping away your
personal preconceptions of yourself just like pruning a tree helps it
grow.
6. Give Freely of Yourself
Life is all about give and take, and I promise you, giving is so much
more fulfilling than taking. Would you rather be the source of the
water, or the sponge that sucks it up?
7. Be Humble
As great as you think you are, crushing your ego is the number one
way to ground yourself in reality. There is a distinct difference
between being proud of an accomplishment, and thinking that you are
god’s gift to humanity.
8. Quit Worrying About What is “Fair”
“Fair” is a purely conditional situation that rarely exists in life.
The sooner you realize that nothing about life is “fair” the sooner
you’ll readily accept whatever life throws at you.
9. Embrace Change
Change in growth, and vice versa. Trying to live in a bubble is a
sign that you can’t cope with life, because one thing about life is that
it will always change.
10. Be Financially Responsible
This statement in no way mean “be materialistic”. What it does mean
is that in life, in modern society, we all have certain financial
responsibilities. Yeah, I’d love to waste all of my money on fun gadgets
and lego sets, but I have bills to pay.
11. Be patient
The old cliche that “patience is a virtue” exists because it is true.
Anything worth having is worth working for and waiting for. Even
diamonds take time.
12. Build Upon Yourself
Self-improvement
isn’t just a section of the bookstore you may or may not venture into.
No one comes into this world perfect, and therefore we must build on
what we have, and become who we want to be, instead of just expecting it
to happen.
13. Take Care of Yourself
Our health, both mental and physical is a constant struggle. If you
are sick all of the time, how can you be expected to face whatever life
throws at you?
14. Manage Your Time
Time should be considered a currency, because it is all we really
have on this planet. Dedicating your time to the right pursuits is
essential to maintaining a life you want to live.
15. Not Everything is a Crisis
Again, this falls somewhere between time management and picking your
battles. If you consistently make mountains out of mole hills, you lose
the ability to focus on what really matters in life.
16. Co-dependence is Weakness
No one in this life will get you through but you. The more you depend
on “crutches” in life, the less able you are to make it through on your
own. No matter how much you think someone else will be there to get you
through, often the hardest struggles in life are the ones you have to
take on by yourself.
17. Take Responsibility for your Life
Slinging blame around like monkey sling poop is just as effective.
This is your time on this planet, so taking ownership of your actions is
the only way to truly live YOUR life.
18. Perfection Doesn’t Exist
Trying to achieve perfection is about as meaningful as trying to
catch water with a sieve. Your idea of “perfect” and mine, and everyone
else’s for that matter, are completely different. Be happy with who you
are, instead of worrying about what is acceptable to anyone else.
19. Know Yourself, Trust Yourself
I believe in this principle enough to have it tattooed on my wrist.
Knowing yourself is what leads to you trusting yourself, But you cannot
trust yourself without knowing yourself. It is a cycle.
20. Expect Less
You’re going to get out of life what you put in to it, and even then –
sometimes you get less. Don’t expect life to give you a break, because
it won’t. Instead, learn to take what you get and make the best of it.
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