In life, emotions can be like the winds that blow us off track on the
path to achieving whatever it is that we want to accomplish. That is
why, in my opinion, of all of the life skill that a person can possess,
emotional intelligence is as important as mental intelligence when it
comes to being successful. That being said, emotional intelligence is
tricky. It is all about keeping your emotions in check, instead of
letting them rule your life. You have to understand your emotions as a
tool, and not as a burden.
Again, this is all easier said than done, so
here are 8 things to keep in mind that emotionally intelligent people
don’t do.
1. Their Emotional Base is Not External
One key to emotional intelligence is understanding that your feelings
are not someone else’s fault. They are your own. You can’t expect
people to always know how you will emotionally react to something, or
for them to even care for that matter. An action by someone else may
make you feel a way that they did not intend, so you have to realize
that it is YOUR responsibility to handle the emotional response
correctly.
2. They Make No Assumptions About Happiness or What Creates It
The funny thing about happiness is that it is an infinite value. When
we think about happiness, we relate it to experiences in our past, but
that doesn’t mean that we can’t achieve a level of happiness greater
than anything we’ve ever known. Therefore, emotionally intelligent
people understand that moving forward and experiencing new things is the
only way to achieve anything resembling “true” happiness.
3. They Understand that Fear is a Normal Emotion to New Things
Fear, for the most part, in new experiences is totally normal. People
are often way too quick to assume that just because something scares
you that it is a bad thing. Being reckless and being fearless are two
different things. Fear is just a way for your mind to make you consider
what it is that is going on, so keep it in check.
4. They Understand that an Emotions are Reactions, Not Reality
Understanding that how you feel is not the defining characteristic of
a situation is probably the most important aspect of emotional
intelligence. It is also the hardest to realize in the heat of the
moment. Understanding that your emotions are what they are for a reason
that is specific to you is important.
5. They Don’t Assume that a Bad Feeling Leads to a Bad Life
One very obvious sign of high emotional intelligence in understanding
that we can’t all be happy all of the time. Just because you are having
a bad day doesn’t mean that your life is falling apart. It means that a
certain number of factors have conspired together to make you have a
bad day. Happiness is a choice, but that doesn’t mean that we have to
choose it every time.
6. They Don’t Befriend Easily
One of the most important things in life is who you choose to
surround yourself with. Being aware of how other people make you feel
and why is critical to making good choices when it comes to friends.
Again, much like all aspects of emotional intelligence, this isn’t
something that happens overnight.
7. They Don’t Associate Composure with Emotional Intelligence
Just because you are emotionally intelligent, that doesn’t mean that
you don’t occasionally lose it. We all do. Being emotionally intelligent
doesn’t mean you are an emotionless robot. It just means that you know
how you feel, why you feel that way, and deal with it accordingly.
8. They Choose Their Own Thoughts
Emotionally intelligent people are often seen as stubborn. This is
because they own their thoughts and emotions equally, with a deep
understanding of how others influence their emotions. It’s not as much
stubborn as it is picky.
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