Use These 8 Psychological Tricks To Become Everybody’s Favorite Person Immediately

We are social beings, and as such it is very important to us that we are a part of a quality group of family members and friends. We have an innate need to know that we are contributing and to feel loved, appreciated and accepted.

In fact, the quality of our social relationships will ultimately determine the quality of our lives. If we cannot connect with people on a meaningful level, the chances are we will struggle emotionally in our lives.

Meeting new people and strengthening friendships is both a skill and a form of art. It can also be very time and energy consuming, especially if you are not the most outgoing and outspoken person.
Here we have prepared for you a short of list of social hacks, or just tips if you will, on the things you could pay some more attention to in your quest to form a social circle suited to your needs and liking.

1. Copy the other person’s behavior

In neuroscience, this is known as mirroring and it basically means mimicking individual gestures the other person is making. More sensitive, socially analytical people like empaths do this without realizing.

The basic psychology behind this is that it increases the other person’s perception of how compatible the two of you are, as friends or maybe something more. You become more relatable, once he/she notices similarities in your facial expressions and body language.

2. Invest in physically meeting people

The social sciences call this the mere exposure effect, and it is based on the fact that the more people see you being physically present in their everyday lives, the more they will start to like you. Now, all of us have a certain person in our life who would gladly see less of, but the science behind the exposure still stands, so please bear with us.

3. Compliments and positive affirmations are the way

A social interaction phenomena noted by science called spontaneous trait transference says that the words you use to describe other people will probably end up being the same words that people use to describe you.

This might be spot on the truth if you consider the fact that we tend to verbally express the way we feel inside, and a person’s energy is contagious so people will sense that in us. Be it positive or negative. The kind of vibes you send out are the ones you will receive back.

4. Keep a good mood.

Now, we know this is so much easier said than done, but please know that even the most negative people feel good around positive energy. Positivity and love are the natural state of every being, so it is very important for the quality of your social interactions to take care of your energy and mood.

Being in a good state of mind will attract more quality people and interactions. Communicate positive emotions and people will start to associate you with the positive energy you bring and hold you in much higher regard.

5. Socialize and then socialize some more

You will quickly become even closer to a person if first you’ve befriended one or more of that person’s friends. It is a social effect called the triadic closure and it describes the human tendency to open up even more to another person if first they’ve had common friends.

6. Use compliments wisely

We all love compliments. It might be we are just enjoying some ego food, or the need might go deeper into our desire to be recognized and valued by others. It might be both, but the point we are trying to convey here is that compliments can be very powerful in getting people to like you, if you use them right. So keep them honest, and in moderation.

There is a theory in interpersonal relationships called the gain – loss theory, that stresses the quality and frequency of complimenting as key in determining how attractive you will be to others.

7. Relax and never hide your flaws.

Now obviously we wouldn’t advise you to share every little embarrassing and awkward thing you’ve done in your life. However, the healthy thing to do is to fully accept yourself the way you are and do not be afraid if some (imperfect) aspects of your persona come out every now and then.


That will make you more natural and relatable in social circles. We all know nobody is perfect, and that is why we tend to like other ‘flawed’ people. This is called the pratfall effect, and it is a very powerful concept to keep in mind in your everyday social interactions.

8. The common values effect.

Human interactions seem to be ruled by individual preferences, (un)realistic perceptions and psychological manipulation. The human mind is such an impressionable thing, and one of the best ways you can connect with another person is by emphasizing common interests, values or goals.

It is called the similarity – attraction effect and it is amazing how far being a fan of the same sports club or having went to the same college can take a friendship.


The investments you make in people, in building a network of relationships are never a waste of your resources. Some people will be there for you, while others will disappoint. But at the end of the day, everyone will be worth it, for all of them will have something to teach you.